{"id":143598,"date":"2020-12-29T19:09:04","date_gmt":"2020-12-29T16:09:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/en.buradabiliyorum.com\/this-awful-year-may-have-reset-our-ability-to-appreciate-happiness\/"},"modified":"2020-12-29T19:09:04","modified_gmt":"2020-12-29T16:09:04","slug":"this-awful-year-may-have-reset-our-ability-to-appreciate-happiness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/this-awful-year-may-have-reset-our-ability-to-appreciate-happiness\/","title":{"rendered":"#This awful year may have reset our ability to appreciate happiness"},"content":{"rendered":"

“#This awful year may have reset our ability to app<\/a>reciate happiness<\/strong>”<\/p>\n

\n In October 2015, when Sarah Jackson was due to wed, the bride-to-be made one critical request of the chef hired to cater the reception\u2014the spread had to<\/em> include chicken wings. It was her fianc\u00e9 Skylar Seale\u2019s only ask (besides the declaration of consent), and the least she could do to include the groom in the planning.<\/p>\n

Not long after the nuptials, the same chef opened a restaurant and the Edmonton couple made it a tradition to celebrate their union there. So, when their fifth anniversary landed on Thanksgiving weekend during a pandemic, Jackson made plans to spoil her husband with his original wedding day wish. It had, after all, been a tough year, and only the second time that the pair had indulged in a dinner date since March, when COVID-19 officially upended life as we knew it.<\/p>\n

It wasn\u2019t until they were at the restaurant that Jackson realized she had slipped up. In the hustle to schedule the evening, she had forgotten to confirm her request with the kitchen, and confessed as much to her husband.<\/p>\n

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For the gregarious father of two, so much depended upon a plate of chicken wings, glazed with hot and sweet sauce. \u201cI was crushed,\u201d Seale says. \u201cI don\u2019t know why, but I tried to let it go and put on a smiley face for Sarah, which I\u2019m not good at.\u201d<\/p>\n

The mood, however, would only last for as long as it took the chef to appear tableside with a gesture that filled Seale\u2019s heart to bursting. \u201cThey came out with the wings,\u201d he explains, \u201cand I felt\u2014it was so special. I cried for like 10 or 15 minutes.\u201d<\/p>\n

Any other year he might have responded with more composure. But for the self-described \u201chugger\u201d whose wedding vows stipulated \u201cbuilding community\u201d as a priority, the social<\/a> isolation and distancing wreaked by the pandemic severed connections to several sources of happiness in his life. Her husband\u2019s outpouring didn\u2019t come as much of a surprise to Jackson, who also puts a premium on social ties. The hassle and risk of arranging time out in public have made moments like that one in the restaurant shine just a little brighter for her. \u201cBecause they\u2019re so hard to get, these things feel more like grand gestures,\u201d she says.<\/p>\n

If 2020 is a year marked by a dearth of joy, then 2021 might be the year that happiness, or at least our ability to appreciate it, gets a reset.<\/p>\n

Unfortunately, happiness doesn\u2019t lend itself to an annual measure the same way GDP does, which makes it difficult to chart over time. That\u2019s a gap that Peter Dodds, director of the University of Vermont\u2019s Complex Systems Center, has been trying to bridge with the Hedonometer, an online tool that charts global happiness by analyzing text (in English and eight other languages) on Twitter.<\/p>\n

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With a list of about 10,000 commonly used words\u2014scored by human beings on a nine-point scale of \u201csad\u201d to \u201chappy\u201d\u2014the tool calculates the \u201caverage happiness for Twitter\u201d from a 10 per cent sample of the 500 million or so tweets published on to the platform each day.<\/p>\n

Although the timeline has been trending sad-ward since 2016, it hit some of its lowest points in 2020 since launching in 2008. First, it was tweets about COVID-19, when the disease assumed pandemic status. Then it was posts about protests against police brutality following the death of George Floyd (currently the lowest point on record). While most happiness free falls on the tool bounce back almost immediately, the drops in 2020 were more like slumps that took months to iron out. \u201cThat\u2019s the sign of a traumatized population,\u201d Dodds says. \u201cIndividuals have trauma. Small populations have trauma. But this is massive\u2014on a global English scale\u2014and you see it in the other languages as well.\u201d<\/p>\n

On March 12, the Hedonometer noticed an uptick in negative terms like \u201ccancelled,\u201d \u201cclosed\u201d and \u201csuspended.\u201d However, hidden near the bottom of the word rankings for that day, another term quietly climbed up the list: \u201chope.\u201d<\/p>\n

At the University of British Columbia in Vancouver, psychology professor Elizabeth Dunn has been studying the factors that shape human happiness. A central tenet of research in that field, she says, is that human beings have a remarkable ability\u2014for better or for worse\u2014to adjust to their conditions. Through that lens, we might get a glimpse into how people are responding to conditions surrounding COVID-19, from lockdown to restart.<\/p>\n

\u201cThe underlying theory is that we adapt to pretty much whatever we\u2019ve got, and so when you change what we\u2019ve got, that can change what we appreciate,\u201d she says. \u201cI think a potential upside of the pandemic is that it may renew our capacity to enjoy some of the pleasurable, little experiences that many of us, prior to COVID-19, probably took for granted.\u201d<\/p>\n

In 2013, a paper she co-authored explored \u201chedonic adaptation,\u201d the human habit of growing accustomed to the things we enjoy, and posited deprivation as a means to resist it. The study followed three groups of students who were asked to eat chocolate in two lab sessions, seven days apart. The first group had to avoid chocolate in the intervening week, while the second were given two pounds of the sweet stuff and told to eat as much of it as possible. A third group, serving as a control, received no instructions but participated all the same. When a week passed and the parties returned for their second dose, the group that had been asked to abstain savoured their treat more than the others.<\/p>\n

With an eye to the pandemic, Dunn predicts, the limitations people experience from restrictions\u2014particularly when it keeps them from their bliss\u2014could foster a renewed appreciation for the things they\u2019ve missed.<\/p>\n

\u201cImagine the first time you get to go to a concert again\u2014it\u2019s going to be amazing,\u201d she says. \u201cI think people will be paying attention to it and appreciating it in a way that you wouldn\u2019t have if you had taken measures of that in 2019.\u201d<\/p>\n

Before the pandemic, Jackson would treat herself to regular dips at a public swimming pool. She hasn\u2019t been since the first week of March given the high demand for pool time at the few facilities that remain open. But after finally securing a reservation in November, the opportunity has left her positively ecstatic. \u201cI\u2019m dying<\/em>. I\u2019m so excited,\u201d she says. \u201cNothing is going to make that not happen.\u201d<\/p>\n

However, the ability to adapt, Dunn is quick to note, cuts two ways. In the study, the groups that had an abundance of chocolate and no restrictions savoured it less at the second check-in. And now, with news<\/a> of a viable vaccine on the horizon, an end to the pandemic is a very real possibility, and with it, a world without public health restrictions.<\/p>\n

\u201cOnce they\u2019ve gone to 17 more concerts,\u201d says Dunn, \u201cI wouldn\u2019t expect that this [appreciation] is going to last people the rest of their lives, unless maybe you remind them.\u201d<\/p>\n

While they can\u2019t deny human nature, both Jackson and Seale believe (on a wing and a prayer) that their new-found appreciation for these little things will last well after their lives return to normal. At the very least, Seale notes, he\u2019s broadened his horizons, and found other sources of happiness. On the balmier days of 2020, he spent much more time with his in-laws, gardening in their backyard and finding comfort in their company.<\/p>\n

\u201cI remembered that on Thanksgiving,\u201d he says. \u201cWe reflected on that, and how much we held each other up\u2014just our two houses. I don\u2019t think that would have happened if it wasn\u2019t for COVID.\u201d<\/p>\n\n

This article appears in print in the January 2021 issue of<\/em> Maclean\u2019s magazine with the headline, \u201cJoy to the world.\u201d Subscribe to the monthly print magazine here<\/a>.<\/em>
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