{"id":151229,"date":"2021-01-10T16:08:00","date_gmt":"2021-01-10T13:08:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/en.buradabiliyorum.com\/being-happy-at-work-might-just-be-all-up-to-you\/"},"modified":"2021-01-10T16:08:00","modified_gmt":"2021-01-10T13:08:00","slug":"being-happy-at-work-might-just-be-all-up-to-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/being-happy-at-work-might-just-be-all-up-to-you\/","title":{"rendered":"#Being happy at work might just be all up to you"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_85 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-custom ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\" style=\"cursor:inherit\">Table of Contents<\/p>\n<label for=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-item-6a3be7eb3d1e3\" class=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-label\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #dd3333;color:#dd3333\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #dd3333;color:#dd3333\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/label><input type=\"checkbox\"  id=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-item-6a3be7eb3d1e3\" checked aria-label=\"Toggle\" \/><nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/being-happy-at-work-might-just-be-all-up-to-you\/#Get_back_your_balance\" >Get back your balance<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/being-happy-at-work-might-just-be-all-up-to-you\/#Predict_failure\" >Predict failure<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/being-happy-at-work-might-just-be-all-up-to-you\/#Treat_yourself\" >Treat yourself<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/being-happy-at-work-might-just-be-all-up-to-you\/#Expand_your_mind\" >Expand your mind<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/being-happy-at-work-might-just-be-all-up-to-you\/#Befriend_HR\" >Befriend HR<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-6\" href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/being-happy-at-work-might-just-be-all-up-to-you\/#Be_aware_that_the_grass_is_not_necessarily_greener\" >Be aware that the grass is not necessarily greener<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-7\" href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/being-happy-at-work-might-just-be-all-up-to-you\/#Imagine_quitting\" >Imagine quitting<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-8\" href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/being-happy-at-work-might-just-be-all-up-to-you\/#Make_a_note_of_why_you_work\" >Make a note of why you work<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<p>&#8220;<strong>#Being h<a href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/category\/download-scripts-themes-apps\/\" data-internallinksmanager029f6b8e52c=\"9\" title=\"Download Scripts &amp; Themes &amp; Apps\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">app<\/a>y at work might just be all up to you<\/strong>&#8221;<\/p>\n<div>\n<p>Don\u2019t complain to Laurie Ruettimann about your work life unless you are willing to do something about it. Ruettimann knows firsthand about what it\u2019s like to have a crappy job, even one that comes with a six-figure salary and a platinum American Express card. <\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s because her job was once the same as that of George Clooney\u2019s character in \u201cUp in the Air\u201d \u2014 a human resources executive who flies from city to city firing people in the name of the company\u2019s bottom line.<\/p>\n<p>In that particular job at mega-pharmaceutical company Pfizer, Ruettimann suffered depression, along with airport meals that consisted of Pepsi and a package of Starburst candy. It led her to lap-band surgery in Tijuana, Mexico \u2014 and also a breakthrough about what\u2019s important.<\/p>\n<p>Ruettimann\u2019s book, <a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Betting-You-Yourself-Finally-Control\/dp\/1250269806?tag=nypost-20\">\u201cBetting on You: How to Put Yourself First and (Finally) Take Control of Your Career<\/a>\u201d (Henry Holt and Company) out tomorrow, is part manifesto and part manual for anyone who is willing to put their own health and happiness ahead of a miserable job. (Don\u2019t worry, lap-band surgery isn\u2019t an integral part of the plan.)<\/p>\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"alignright size-nypost-medium-post\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"322\" height=\"483\" alt=\"&quot;Betting On You&quot; by Laurie Ruettimann\" class=\"wp-image-17013366 lazyload\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/01\/BettingOnYou_new.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=300 300w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/01\/BettingOnYou_new.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=640 640w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/01\/BettingOnYou_new.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=1280 1280w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/01\/BettingOnYou_new.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=322 322w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/01\/BettingOnYou_new.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=644 644w\" data-sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 322px\"\/><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<p>What\u2019s especially helpful about Ruettimann\u2019s book is that she\u2019s right there with you, sharing her own journey, stumbles included, to a life that has room for healthy behaviors, hobbies, relationships, volunteering and even binge-watching TV.<\/p>\n<p>Ruettimann also shares the paths that friends and others she\u2019s counseled have taken. Mind you, nowhere in the book does Ruettimann ask you to quit your job, settle for a smaller paycheck or start your own business. Instead, it\u2019s about sitting with your discomfort and figuring out what\u2019s wrong with the current job before moving on to the next.<\/p>\n<p>Ruettimann insists that stressed workers become unhappy ones. \u201cIf you\u2019re worried about working less and getting in trouble, quit those long hours and dare them to fire you in a gracious way,\u201d she writes. \u201cPivot away from work and embrace your emotional health. Nobody gets fired for getting more sleep and being happier. People get fired for being jerks.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Aside from having trodden the path of a disgruntled worker herself, Ruettimann also has more than a decade of human resources experience, the important certifications in the industry, a large network of HR executives and lots of common sense from which to offer advice, which includes figuring out why you show up at work and what you get out of it.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cEven on the most oppressive days, this exercise helped me see I wasn\u2019t a victim,\u201d she writes.<\/p>\n<p>The book also provides a path forward, \u201cIn the next six months I would like to xxxx, so I need to xxxx. Exercises like this, and attitudes and actions you take as a result, change your relationship with work,\u201d said Ruettimann. \u201cBut nothing changes if you do not take that initial risk, bet on yourself, and put yourself first. You can\u2019t continue to blame other people if work is broken. Fix it for yourself.\u201d<\/p>\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"alignleft size-nypost-medium-post\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"322\" height=\"483\" alt=\"Laurie Ruettimann&#10;\" class=\"wp-image-17013365 lazyload\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/01\/DSC_0871.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=300 300w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/01\/DSC_0871.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=640 640w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/01\/DSC_0871.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=1280 1280w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/01\/DSC_0871.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=322 322w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/01\/DSC_0871.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=644 644w\" data-sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 322px\"\/><figcaption>Laurie Ruettimann<br \/>\n<\/figcaption><figcaption><span class=\"credit\">Kathy Howard Photography<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<p>Here are Ruettimann\u2019s tips for a happier relationship with your work:<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Get_back_your_balance\"><\/span>Get back your balance<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>\u201cIt\u2019s hard to get fired in America,\u201d said Ruettimann. \u201cTrust me, I worked in HR. Do this for 30 days: Schedule your working hours and time off, and stick to it. When you work, demonstrate the best work ethic ever. When you\u2019re off, be off. See how you feel after a month.\u201d<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Predict_failure\"><\/span>Predict failure<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>\u201cWe waste time and energy on conversations, meetings and projects that end up going nowhere,\u201d said Ruettimann. \u201cBefore you do anything, whether it\u2019s hopping on a video chat with your boss or meeting with a vendor to discuss contracts, ask yourself, \u2018How will this go wrong?\u2019 Make a list. Then proactively try to fix those things before they go wrong. Be proactive about beating failure, and you\u2019ll fix your job.\u201d<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Treat_yourself\"><\/span>Treat yourself<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>\u201cYou work hard. Where\u2019s the payoff? Start budgeting for a post-pandemic vacation, a new (to you) car, or even just a day off where you indulge in the activities you love,\u201d said Ruettimann. \u201cYour hard work can feel good when you create an audacious financial goal.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Expand_your_mind\"><\/span>Expand your mind<br \/><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>\u201cUnhappy employees are bored,\u201d said Ruettimann. \u201cIf you\u2019re not learning, you\u2019re not growing. We live in the golden age of learning \u2014 from free online courses to digital libraries, there\u2019s no excuse. Take 15 minutes a day and learn something new.\u201d<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Befriend_HR\"><\/span>Befriend HR<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>\u201cWhen your job is overwhelming or even toxic, there\u2019s one person who can give you the inside scoop on whether or not it will ever get better: your HR representative,\u201d said Ruettimann. \u201cLucky for you, HR people have no real friends outside of HR. Be kind, get to know your human resources manager, and you\u2019ll be rewarded with hot gossip and a better understanding of how work works.\u201d<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Be_aware_that_the_grass_is_not_necessarily_greener\"><\/span>Be aware that the grass is not necessarily greener<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>\u201cAll workers are overwhelmed. There\u2019s no company that has nailed work-life balance,\u201d said Ruettimann. \u201cIf you\u2019re interested in another job, ask around. Are any of your friends truly happy with their careers? The answer to what ails you is most likely inside, not at another company.\u201d<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Imagine_quitting\"><\/span>Imagine quitting<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>\u201cNothing good comes from quitting on the spot, but you can plan and rehearse your resignation,\u201d said Ruettimann. \u201cWill you write a formal letter? Throw a party? Give a speech telling your boss what you really think of her? See it. Dream about it. And then save it for a day when we\u2019re not all struggling to survive a pandemic and recession.\u201d<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Make_a_note_of_why_you_work\"><\/span>Make a note of why you work<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>\u201cSome people go to work to earn money to pay off student loans. Others go to work to pursue their passions, which gets them closer to a more fulfilling career. You can\u2019t improve your life until you understand why you do what you do,\u201d said Ruettimann. \u201cWrite down your why on a sheet of paper. Put it on your desk. Look at it often, especially when your days are taxing.\u201d\n            <\/div>\n<blockquote><p><strong><span style=\"color: #ff6600;\">If you liked the article, do not forget to share it with your friends. 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