{"id":250628,"date":"2021-05-15T16:36:50","date_gmt":"2021-05-15T13:36:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/en.buradabiliyorum.com\/how-youre-irritating-your-colleagues-online-without-knowing\/"},"modified":"2021-05-15T16:36:50","modified_gmt":"2021-05-15T13:36:50","slug":"how-youre-irritating-your-colleagues-online-without-knowing","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/how-youre-irritating-your-colleagues-online-without-knowing\/","title":{"rendered":"#How you&#8217;re irritating your colleagues online without knowing"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_84 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-custom ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\" style=\"cursor:inherit\">Table of Contents<\/p>\n<label for=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-item-6a2f3cc81b419\" class=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-label\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #dd3333;color:#dd3333\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #dd3333;color:#dd3333\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/label><input type=\"checkbox\"  id=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-item-6a2f3cc81b419\" checked aria-label=\"Toggle\" \/><nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/how-youre-irritating-your-colleagues-online-without-knowing\/#1_You_respond_too_quickly_at_the_expense_of_clarity\" >1) You respond too quickly at the expense of clarity\u00a0<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/how-youre-irritating-your-colleagues-online-without-knowing\/#2_YOU_OVERDO_THE_CAPS\" >2) YOU OVERDO THE CAPS\u00a0<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/how-youre-irritating-your-colleagues-online-without-knowing\/#3_You_send_messages_at_terrible_times\" >3) You send messages at terrible times\u00a0<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/how-youre-irritating-your-colleagues-online-without-knowing\/#4_You_talk_too_much_Give_others_the_mic_too\" >4) You talk too much! Give others the mic, too\u00a0<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<p>&#8220;<strong>#How you&#8217;re irritating your colleagues online without knowing<\/strong>&#8221;<\/p>\n<div>\n<p>We\u2019ve all had an inconsiderate colleague (let\u2019s call him Worrying William) who needs everything right now. He sends all of his emails with \u201cURGENT\u201d in the subject line, texts you after he emails you, and gives you a call if he doesn\u2019t hear back within a few hours. Perhaps you have dropped other deadlines to help Worrying William finish something, only to find out that the fire drill was totally unnecessary.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Or maybe you\u2019ve run into his counterpart, Non-Responsive Nancy. She will agree to complete a large piece of work and then not reply to your multiple followup emails and calls even when the deadline has come. Non-Responsive Nancy won\u2019t give you any clue that she is stressed out or can\u2019t complete her work. While you\u2019re waiting for a response from her, you\u2019re missing your deadlines, too.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Worrying Williams and Non-Responsive Nancys make collaborating difficult \u2014 even more so in our digital life. And, especially now as so many of us continue to work from home during the COVID-19 pandemic, without those external cues that help us modify our behavior, it\u2019s easy for any of us to become an inconsiderate colleague.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>I call this our <a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/ericadhawan.com\/digitalbodylanguage\/\">digital body language<\/a>. And if you\u2019re a member of an at-home workplace, it\u2019s wise to look in the mirror and see if you\u2019re making one of these four most common mistakes:\u00a0<\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large is-style-default\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"1024\" height=\"682\" alt=\"You might think using ALL CAPS in messages conveys a sense of humor or urgency, but it's actually a big turn off.\" class=\"wp-image-18248463 lazyload\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/05\/office-blow-horn.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=300 300w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/05\/office-blow-horn.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=640 640w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/05\/office-blow-horn.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=1280 1280w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/05\/office-blow-horn.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=1024 1024w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/05\/office-blow-horn.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=2000 2000w\" data-sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 1024px\"\/><figcaption>You might think using ALL CAPS in messages conveys a sense of humor or urgency, but it\u2019s actually a big turn off.<\/figcaption><figcaption><span class=\"credit\">Shutterstock<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1_You_respond_too_quickly_at_the_expense_of_clarity\"><\/span><strong>1) You respond too quickly at the expense of clarity<\/strong>\u00a0<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>An executive who I\u2019ll call Tom was renowned at one of my client\u2019s offices for both responding right away and also never actually answering the question. Once, when a direct report sent him an email asking, \u201cTom, do you want us to move forward with this plan or should we gather more information?\u201d Tom replied, \u201cYes.\u201d Thanks, Tom, we\u2019ll move ahead on one, or both or neither.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Many people feel a lot of pressure to reply instantaneously. But sometimes it\u2019s better to slow communication down by switching the digital channel \u2014 like moving a text message request to an email chain \u2014 and always be clear with your colleagues about what needs an urgent response and what doesn\u2019t.\u00a0<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2_YOU_OVERDO_THE_CAPS\"><\/span><strong>2) YOU OVERDO THE CAPS\u00a0<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Consider the following email message: \u201cTHIS IS NOT GOOD, NEEDS A LOT OF WORK!!!!\u201d It sounds like Zeus ordering a hit job on a lesser god \u2014 terse sentence structure and a crazy picket fence of explanation marks. We often try to infuse \u201cbody language\u201d in our digital communication to bring the emotion, enthusiasm and nuance of a human voice to comments in emails, texts and instant messages. But all caps actually make the sender sound hostile, if not totally unhinged.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Always be aware of the visual impact of your message. If ALL CAPS is your thing, tell your colleagues (in a friendly way) that you use them to signal multiple meanings \u2014 urgency, excitement or even shouting \u2014 to avoid miscommunication.\u00a0<\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large is-style-default\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"1024\" height=\"682\" alt=\"Time your messages properly. Sending complex emails on a Friday evening puts unnecessary pressure on people.\" class=\"wp-image-18248470 lazyload\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/05\/watching-the-clock.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=300 300w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/05\/watching-the-clock.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=640 640w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/05\/watching-the-clock.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=1280 1280w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/05\/watching-the-clock.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=1024 1024w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/05\/watching-the-clock.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=2000 2000w\" data-sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 1024px\"\/><figcaption>Time your messages properly. Sending complex emails on a Friday evening puts unnecessary pressure on people.<\/figcaption><figcaption><span class=\"credit\">Shutterstock<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3_You_send_messages_at_terrible_times\"><\/span><strong>3) You send messages at terrible times\u00a0<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Don\u2019t expect your team to absorb a novella-length email that you decide to send out at 5 p.m. on a Friday, and definitely don\u2019t expect them to respond to it thoughtfully. Nor should you wait until the last minute to send complex messages that may invite some back-and-forth. In both cases, it\u2019s best to end your message with an invitation for a phone call or an in-person meeting to go over the smaller details. And schedule your emails for ideal times like weekday mornings, while avoiding Friday afternoons or a Sunday morning, when others may feel pressured to respond over the weekend or feel guilty for not responding.\u00a0<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4_You_talk_too_much_Give_others_the_mic_too\"><\/span><strong>4) You talk too much! Give others the mic, too\u00a0<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<div class=\"wp-block-image is-style-default\">\n<figure class=\"alignleft size-nypost-small-post\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"231\" height=\"317\" alt=\"Body Language\" class=\"wp-image-18248483 lazyload\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/05\/digital-body-language.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=300 300w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/05\/digital-body-language.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=640 640w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/05\/digital-body-language.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=1280 1280w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/05\/digital-body-language.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=231 231w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/05\/digital-body-language.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=462 462w\" data-sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 231px\"\/><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<p>In virtual meetings, we often jump to answers quickly because we hate the awkward silence (compared to in-person meetings where we can see that people are thinking). Try and structure meetings that have an agenda and plan specific times for people to share their thoughts. Use breakout rooms and virtual chat tools that encourage everyone to share their opinion, without allowing one single person to dominate. And if you\u2019re prone to overdoing it in texts, emails and meetings, curb yourself by going on mute once in a while. Giving other people the space they might need to think through questions and process ideas makes for a more dynamic conversation.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Often, poor digital behaviors are rooted in unaddressed fears and anxieties that mutate into chronic delays, passive-aggressiveness and the erosion of trust. Yes, it can be hard to read the room over emails, Slack and Zoom, but it isn\u2019t impossible. By following the basic rules of digital body language, you can avoid becoming the inconsiderate colleague in your office.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><em><a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/ericadhawan.com\/\">Erica Dhawan<\/a> is an award winning keynote speaker and the author of the new book \u201c<a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/ericadhawan.com\/digitalbodylanguage\/\">Digital Body Language<\/a>.\u201d Follow her on <a href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/category\/social-mediaa\/\" data-internallinksmanager029f6b8e52c=\"1\" title=\"Social Media\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Twitter<\/a> and Linkedin <a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/ericadhawan\">@ericadhawan<\/a>\u00a0<\/em>\n            <\/div>\n<p><script async src=\"\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><strong><span style=\"color: #ff6600;\">If you liked the article, do not forget to share it with your friends. 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