{"id":268185,"date":"2021-06-05T23:52:39","date_gmt":"2021-06-05T20:52:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/en.buradabiliyorum.com\/memoir-nothing-personal-reveals-why-online-dating-sucks\/"},"modified":"2021-06-05T23:52:39","modified_gmt":"2021-06-05T20:52:39","slug":"memoir-nothing-personal-reveals-why-online-dating-sucks","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/memoir-nothing-personal-reveals-why-online-dating-sucks\/","title":{"rendered":"#Memoir ‘Nothing Personal’ reveals why online dating sucks"},"content":{"rendered":"

“#Memoir ‘Nothing Personal’ reveals why online dating sucks<\/strong>”
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When she was 49, author Nancy Jo Sales was getting over a breakup when she download<\/a>ed Tinder on a whim. Why not, she thought, this seems like it might be fun. What ensued was quite the adventure through the world of online dating.\u00a0<\/p>\n

She never intended to write a memoir \u2014 \u201cand certainly not about my sex life!\u201d she says with a laugh. But she felt compelled to with her newest book, \u201cNothing Personal: My Secret Life in the Dating App Inferno<\/a>\u201d (Hachette Books) \u2014 if for no other reason than to reassure thousands of young people, mostly women, that they aren\u2019t alone in finding online dating to be woefully lacking in substance.\u00a0<\/p>\n

\u201cI think there\u2019s a lot of people out there who don\u2019t like [online dating], who feel like it must be their fault. They want to be reassured that they\u2019re not doing something wrong. And I know it\u2019s not normal. It\u2019s not OK,\u201d says Sales, referring to the aggressive messages, unsolicited nude pics, or the kind of exchange that can turn verbally abusive the minute a woman says, \u201cNo thanks.\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n

\u201cA lot of women feel alone in their feelings like they\u2019re in an impossible situation. Dating is such a huge part of young women\u2019s lives. And I felt like I had to share and be personal about it.\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n

Her personal experiences and the research she did for the 2018 HBO documentary \u201cSwiped: Hooking Up in the Digital Age\u201d convinced her of something: The medium itself is the problem, encouraging people to see each other as objects rather than individuals.\u00a0<\/p>\n

\u201cI am not glamorizing the past at all. But there was more true connection. There was more courtesy,\u201d she says of old-school dating. \u201cThere\u2019s something to be said for having a social<\/a> contract where we actually show up at a bar at 8:30. A promise of \u2014 not marriage, but actually showing up.\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n

One of her biggest takeaways: The fact that Big Dating doesn\u2019t care if you find a mate \u2014 in fact, they\u2019d prefer you didn\u2019t.\u00a0<\/p>\n

\u201cThese companies don\u2019t care if you ride off into the sunset,\u201d she says. \u201cThey just want you to stay on the app.\u201d\n <\/p><\/div>\n

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