{"id":292716,"date":"2021-07-07T08:51:18","date_gmt":"2021-07-07T05:51:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/en.buradabiliyorum.com\/covid-19-deaths-causing-problems-for-mourning-family-members\/"},"modified":"2021-07-07T08:51:18","modified_gmt":"2021-07-07T05:51:18","slug":"covid-19-deaths-causing-problems-for-mourning-family-members","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/covid-19-deaths-causing-problems-for-mourning-family-members\/","title":{"rendered":"#COVID-19 deaths causing problems for mourning family members"},"content":{"rendered":"

“#COVID-19 deaths causing problems for mourning family members<\/strong>”<\/p>\n

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Kelly Brown\u2019s 74-year-old father got sick first with COVID-19, followed by her 71-year-old mom just two days later. John and Judy Trzebiatowski died of the illness just a week apart last August, sending Brown into a black tunnel of grief that doesn\u2019t seem to have an end.<\/p>\n

Health restrictions strip<\/a>ped away the things that normally help people deal with death, such as bedside visits at the Wisconsin hospital where they were treated and a big funeral with hugs and tears, she said. That left Brown to deal with her sorrow on her own, and now she\u2019s having a hard time seeing a way forward.<\/p>\n

With more than 605,000 dead of COVID-19 in the United States and nearly 4 million worldwide, Brown is among the thousands or more who could be experiencing prolonged grief, the kind of mourning that experts say can prevent people from moving beyond a death and functioning normally again.<\/p>\n

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Kelly Brown holds up a December 2019 photograph of her parents John and Judy Trzebiatowski, who died from COVID-19, in her home in Menomonee Falls, Wis. <\/figcaption>
AP\/ Morry Gash<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

\u201cIt\u2019s the most horrible thing to have to go through,\u201d said Brown. \u201cI would not wish this upon anyone.\u201d<\/p>\n

Natalia Skritskaya, an expert on grieving, said it\u2019s too early to say whether prolonged grieving, also known as complicated grief, will be a major complication from the pandemic \u2014 it isn\u2019t yet over, with thousands still dying daily worldwide, including hundreds in the United States. Many mourners have yet to pass the one-year anniversary of a loss, and few studies have been published so far on the psychiatric fallout, she said.<\/p>\n

But prolonged grief is both real and potentially debilitating, said Skritskaya, a research scientist and clinical psychologist with the Center for Complicated Grief at Columbia University in New York. She noted that it can be treated with therapy in which participants talk through their experience and feelings.<\/p>\n

\"Kelly
Kelly Brown, right, and Stacy Nash hold up a photograph of their parents, John and Judy Trzebiatowski, who died from COVID-19.<\/figcaption>
AP<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

\u201cThe core of it is kind of helping people face the reality of what happ<\/a>ened,\u201d she said. \u201cIt\u2019s not an easy treatment. It\u2019s intense.\u201d<\/p>\n

Jerri Vance said therapy has helped her deal with grief since her husband, James Vance, a retired police officer in Bluefield, West Virginia, died of COVID-19 on New Year\u2019s Day, but she worries about their two young daughters.<\/p>\n

\u201cSeeing my kids\u2019 grief adds to my pain,\u201d she said. \u201cOne of my kids isn\u2019t making much progress in therapy because her daddy was her person. She is still mad at the world.\u201d<\/p>\n

A study published in the fall predicted a likely increase in cases of prolonged grief linked to the pandemic. Already, people who lost loved ones to COVID-19 are filling social media<\/a> pages with stories of tears and sadness that just won\u2019t go away.<\/p>\n

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Noreen Wasti sits in a park near her home in Brooklyn, as she sits back and reminisces about her late father Salman Wasti, 76, who died from COVID-19.<\/figcaption>
AP<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Many cite the loss of typical end-of-life rituals for their continual grieving; some struggle because of the unexpectedness and seeming unfairness of the coronavirus. The politicization of the pandemic is a thorn for many who constantly see and hear some argue against what health experts say are life-saving practices including vaccinations, mask wearing and social distancing.<\/p>\n

\u201cIn my office I listen all day to unsolicited opinions and try not to engage, as it is unprofessional,\u201d said Betsy Utnick, whose father, Sheldon Polan of Selden, New York, died in April 2020. She said she still cries every day because the grief has yet to subside.<\/p>\n

Noreen Wasti knows the feeling. She lost her father to the illness caused by the coronavirus on Dec. 27 and is having a hard time going on.<\/p>\n

Wasti, who writes and creates online content in New York, said she\u2019s unsure what it will take to get over the loss of Salman Wasti, 76, a retired biology professor from Glocester, Rhode Island.<\/p>\n

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Noreen Wasti shows a framed family photo of herself in Brooklyn, NY, as a child with her father \u2014 Salman Wasti, 76 \u2014 who died from COVID-19.<\/figcaption>
AP<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

With so many people hurting and little personal interaction for months because of pandemic health restrictions, social media has become the place where many connect to share stories of loved ones and loss. One private Facebook page dealing with COVID-19 losses has more than 10,000 members, and continuing grief is a constant thread of discussion.<\/p>\n

Rabia Khan has found solace online since the death on Thanksgiving Day of her father, Pakistani activist Muhammad Hameedullah Khan of Chicago. In survivor and family groups, she said, the grieving don\u2019t face insensitive questions about how a loved one contracted the virus or why someone wasn\u2019t careful enough to avoid it.<\/p>\n

Aside from sharing stories online of her late boyfriend Ben Schaeffer, a New York subway conductor and historian, Lisa Smid has tried to redirect her anguish into something positive. She sponsored an online lecture at the New York Transit Museum and plans to honor his legacy by endowing more memorial lectures.<\/p>\n

Ann Haas of St. Paul, Minnesota, is still trying to find some sort of outlet as she mourns, but work keeps bringing her back to the worst day of her life.<\/p>\n

\"Ann
Ann Haas poses in Eden Prairie, Minn., with a photo she took of her late father, Raymond Haas, who died from COVID-19. <\/figcaption>
AP\/ Jim Mone<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Haas lost her father, Raymond Haas, to COVID-19 on Nov. 11 and works in the laundry at the same Veterans Affairs hospital where he spent his final days. Haas said memories keep flooding back each time she folds a tan blanket like the one that covered him while he was fighting to live.<\/p>\n

\u201c\u2019I wish other people could see what this does to people. I hear people saying, \u2018This isn\u2019t real, it\u2019s nothing,\u2019\u201d Haas said between sobs. \u201cI\u2019ve got nothing left. I don\u2019t know if it\u2019s going to take them losing someone to understand.\u201d\n <\/p><\/div>\n

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