{"id":344077,"date":"2021-09-25T02:30:01","date_gmt":"2021-09-24T23:30:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/en.buradabiliyorum.com\/my-husband-was-having-an-affair-with-monica-lewinsky\/"},"modified":"2021-09-25T02:30:01","modified_gmt":"2021-09-24T23:30:01","slug":"my-husband-was-having-an-affair-with-monica-lewinsky","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/my-husband-was-having-an-affair-with-monica-lewinsky\/","title":{"rendered":"#My husband was having an affair with Monica Lewinsky"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>&#8220;<strong>#My husband was having an affair with Monica Lewinsky<\/strong>&#8221;<\/p>\n<div>\n<aside class=\"single__inline-module alignleft\">\n        <\/aside>\n<p>In 1997, Kate Nason, then Bleiler, found out her husband Andy Bleiler was having two affairs: one with a colleague and another with a family friend named Monica Lewinsky.<\/p>\n<p>Yes, that Monica.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI had suspected my then-husband was having an affair with a co-worker,\u201d Nason told The Post.  \u201cI confronted him about it and he was gaslighting me,\u201d she said. <\/p>\n<p>The co-worker showed up to their home and confirmed that nagging suspicion and more: He\u2019d also been having a relationship with Lewinsky, then 23. <\/p>\n<p>\u201cI found out about both of them that day.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Because of his infidelity, she would soon inadvertently find herself in the middle of a presidential sex scandal when <a href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/category\/news\/\" data-internallinksmanager029f6b8e52c=\"2\" title=\"News\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">news<\/a> of Lewinsky\u2019s affair with Bill Clinton became public in January 1998.<\/p>\n<p>When the press discovered Bleiler \u2014 who worked at a Vancouver high school \u2014 and Lewinsky\u2019s connection, her world was turned upside down \u2014 Nason\u2019s privacy and anonymity becoming collateral damage.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI was reeling from that discovery when January of 1998 h<a href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/category\/download-scripts-themes-apps\/\" data-internallinksmanager029f6b8e52c=\"9\" title=\"Download Scripts &amp; Themes &amp; Apps\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">app<\/a>ened,\u201d said Nason, who was in couples therapy with her husband after she learned of his affairs. \u201cI got a call from my mother telling me she read a blurb about the [Bleiler and Lewinsky\u2019s] affair in the LA Times \u2026 Before the end of the day, my voicemail was filled to capacity. The press showed up to our doorstep within hours.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>In Nason\u2019s new audio memoir \u201c<a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.audible.com\/pd\/Everything-Is-Perfect-Audiobook\/B092FN97WJ\">Everything Is Perfect<\/a>,\u201d she recounts that painful period in her life as the mother of two young children, and how she learned to trust her gut in relationships. <\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"682\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/09\/kate-nason.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=682\" alt=\"Kate Nason author of &quot;Everything is Perfect&quot; \" class=\"wp-image-19573073\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/09\/kate-nason.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=1023 1023w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/09\/kate-nason.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=682 682w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/09\/kate-nason.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=341 341w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/09\/kate-nason.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 682px) 100vw, 682px\"\/><figcaption>Kate Nason, author of \u201cEverything Is Perfect\u201d <\/figcaption><figcaption><span class=\"credit\">Courtesy of Kate Nason<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>\u201cThe book is really about my 30s, and the ridiculous mistakes I made along the way by ignoring my intuition,\u201d said Nason, adding that it\u2019s not a lurid tell-all meant to shame or blame anyone, it\u2019s a \u201cdeep dive and self-reckoning\u201d with her own story. <\/p>\n<p>\u201cI was keenly aware that my big story had a big problem. How to tell\u00a0my story when another woman\u2019s story is tangled up in mine? In particular, a woman whose story has been told by herself and others. A woman who maintains a public presence and has worked to grapple with her own ghosts just as I have. And then, of course, there was an American president and a first lady. At first, I tried to write this story without them in it. In the end, the magnitude of these events in my life was so pivotal that to write them out was impossible,\u201d <a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/katenasonwrites.com\/\">she wrote in a blog for audible<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>In fact, in her memoir she changed the names of Monica and Andrew to Mallory and Charlie as a method of \u201cself preservation.\u201d<\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"1024\" height=\"682\" src=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/09\/kate-nason-2.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=1024\" alt=\"A treasure trove of items belonging to Monica Lewinsky and notes she wrote to Nason went up for auction in 2013.\" class=\"wp-image-19573001\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/09\/kate-nason-2.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=1535 1536w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/09\/kate-nason-2.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all 1024w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/09\/kate-nason-2.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=512 512w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\"\/><figcaption>A treasure trove of items belonging to Monica Lewinsky and notes she wrote to Nason went up for auction in 2013.<\/figcaption><figcaption><span class=\"credit\">Alamy Stock Photo<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>Nason was a divorced mother of one in 1988 when she met Bleiler, who was six years her junior. Despite having some doubts, she went ahead and married him. <\/p>\n<p>\u201cMy husband\u2019s ability to lie and deceive was matched by my own to delude,\u201d Nason said in her memoir. \u201cI doubted myself. I denied my intuition.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Her now ex-husband had been friends with Lewinsky, whom he\u2019d met while he was a drama teacher. They struck up an affair in 1993 when she was 19. Lewinksy later attended Lewis and Clark College in Portland, Ore., where the Bleilers had also moved, and was a frequent presence in their life, babysitting their children and even calling daily from DC. In her book, Nason said she was taken with Lewinsky\u2019s \u201cbawdy humor. She always made me laugh, and always made me blush.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>As the scandal played out, it produced a tsunami that engulfed Washington, but its reverberations began to be felt in Portland, where the <a href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/category\/social-mediaa\/\" data-internallinksmanager029f6b8e52c=\"1\" title=\"Social Media\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">media<\/a> decamped to their home.<\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"1024\" height=\"682\" src=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/09\/kate-nason-andy-bleiler.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=1024\" alt=\"Kate Nason with then husband Andy Bleiler and attorney Terry Gilles at a 1998 press conference where Bleiler admitted to having an affair with Monica Lewinsky.\" class=\"wp-image-19573586\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/09\/kate-nason-andy-bleiler.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=1535 1536w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/09\/kate-nason-andy-bleiler.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all 1024w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/09\/kate-nason-andy-bleiler.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=512 512w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\"\/><figcaption>Kate Nason with then-husband Andy Bleiler and attorney Terry Gilles at a 1998 press conference where Bleiler admitted to having an affair with Monica Lewinsky.<\/figcaption><figcaption><span class=\"credit\">Getty Images<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>Initially, Nason took her children to Los Angeles to hide out for a week, but the reporters didn\u2019t leave. <\/p>\n<p>\u201cI came back and things were getting worse so we were advised to do a press conference to make them go away,\u201d Nason recalled.<\/p>\n<p>Nason, her husband and a lawyer appeared on their front porch, where Bleiler admitted his yearslong affair.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI didn\u2019t say anything. I stood there looking like a deer in headlights. My ex said a few words and then the lawyer took over. It seemed to last an eternity.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>In the press conference, their attorney said Lewinsky told the couple, \u201cI\u2019m going to the White House to get my presidential knee pads.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Unfortunately it didn\u2019t quench the media appetite. When one reporter chased her through a grocery store, she employed humor to disarm him. She ran to the party aisle and grabbed a pair of Groucho Marx glasses.<\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"1024\" height=\"682\" src=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/09\/monica-bill.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=1024\" alt=\"Former White House intern Monica Lewinksy with Bill Clinton\" class=\"wp-image-19573027\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/09\/monica-bill.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=1535 1536w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/09\/monica-bill.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all 1024w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/09\/monica-bill.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=512 512w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\"\/><figcaption>Former White House intern Monica Lewinksy with Bill Clinton<\/figcaption><figcaption><span class=\"credit\">Getty Images<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>\u201cI put them on and made the reporter laugh. [My kids and I] kept a few pairs in our glove compartment because it was a way we could laugh without feeling like the world was laughing at us,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cIt was horrifying. Anytime there was a ripple in the case, people would show up at my doorstep. We lived six to eight months with our curtains closed. To be going through something so private and so heartbreaking and to have it so publicly aired. I feel for anyone who has gone through this.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>The pair continued couples therapy but in 1999, announced they would be divorcing.<\/p>\n<aside class=\"single__inline-module alignright\">\n    <\/aside>\n<p>Nason coped by focusing on her children, and said she smashed a lot of plates. She found particular comfort in praying to the Virgin Mary \u2014 and installed a statue in her backyard as a shrine. <\/p>\n<p>Ten years after the scandal, Lewinsky wrote Nason an apology note, asking for forgiveness. Nason still has the note \u201ctucked away in a box.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>But in 2013, Nason did give items used in the Kenneth Starr investigation that led to Clinton\u2019s impeachment to an auction house. The treasure trove included Lewinsky\u2019s black negligee and handwritten notes from the infamous intern to both Nason and her ex-husband, including a Valentine\u2019s Day card imprinted with the phrase: \u201cI like you a latte.\u201d <\/p>\n<p>She has no plans to watch \u201cImpeachment: American Crime Story\u201d about the sordid Clinton sex scandal and said she learned to truly turn the page while shopping her memoir, which she had written in present tense. Someone suggested she change it to past tense. <\/p>\n<p>\u201cIt was miraculous. With each sentence, changing each verb I felt like I was set free. I was pretty done at that point.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>After two bad marriages, Nason put love on the backburner, focusing on motherhood and her slipcover-making business. But plot twists seemed to find Nason. She fell in love with artist and playwright Tad Savinar, whom she married in a 2014 ceremony in Florence, Italy, where she previously lived in her 20s.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cIt took 14 years of not dating,\u201d she said. \u201cI have an amazing partner. I got a very happy ending.\u201d\n                        <\/p><\/div>\n<blockquote><p><strong><span style=\"color: #ff6600;\">If you liked the article, do not forget to share it with your friends. 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