{"id":3625,"date":"2020-06-07T18:03:00","date_gmt":"2020-06-07T15:03:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/en.buradabiliyorum.com\/how-to-keep-a-strong-relationship-with-your-work-spouse-in-quarantine\/"},"modified":"2020-06-07T18:03:00","modified_gmt":"2020-06-07T15:03:00","slug":"how-to-keep-a-strong-relationship-with-your-work-spouse-in-quarantine","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/how-to-keep-a-strong-relationship-with-your-work-spouse-in-quarantine\/","title":{"rendered":"How to keep a strong relationship with your \u2018work spouse\u2019 in quarantine"},"content":{"rendered":"

“#How to keep a strong relationship with your \u2018work spouse\u2019 in quarantine<\/strong>”<\/p>\n

\n When Christopher Rim and Wafa F. Muflahi met seven years ago as undergraduates at Yale, they became close friends, which evolved into a strong working relationship. For the past five years they\u2019ve been colleagues at education and college consulting firm Command Education in Midtown, where Rim\u2019s the CEO and Muflahi\u2019s a partner and senior program director.<\/p>\n

They\u2019ve become what\u2019s colloquially known as \u201cwork spouses\u201d \u2014 they\u2019re not married, but professional partners who have each other\u2019s backs, in recession and in wealth, no questions asked.<\/p>\n

\u201cWhen we\u2019re in Hong Kong, I\u2019m really bad at jet lag. I can\u2019t get through the first day or two,\u201d says Rim. \u201cWafa has no problem, so she\u2019s filled in for some of the calls I have to be on.\u201d<\/p>\n

As Muflahi quarantines in Park Slope and Rim in Tribeca, constant communication is the norm by Slack, e-mail, texts, WhatsApp<\/a>, FaceTime, phone calls, Zoom and Instagram.<\/p>\n

\u201cIt\u2019s not in person, but still feels like we\u2019re connected,\u201d says Muflahi.<\/p>\n

Studies have shown that a deep connection with a work colleague is valuable regarding job satisfaction, performance and engagement. Plus, social connections built upon trust, respect and understanding are key to reducing burnout and combatting loneliness.<\/p>\n

Dorie Clark, who teaches at Duke University\u2019s Fuqua School of Business and is the author of \u201cStand Out: How To Find Your Breakthrough Idea and Build a Following Around It\u201d (Portfolio), says that \u201cwork can be challenging in the best of times and especially when we\u2019re dealing with a pandemic and major economic uncertainty. Having a work spouse enables work to be a supportive and joyful environment, which can make all the difference in your happiness and success.\u201d<\/p>\n

According to a survey conducted by PRPioneer.com, provider of public relations and digital marketing resources, 63 percent of respondents said they would be more productive in lockdown with their work spouse than their real spouse. One-fourth said they miss their work spouse during quarantine more than they would miss their partner.<\/p>\n

Scott Miller, executive vice president of thought leadership at FranklinCovey and author of \u201cManagement Mess to Leadership Success\u201d (FranklinCovey), cautions that while it\u2019s helpful to have a best friend at work, \u201cwork spouse\u201d has some caveats when you\u2019re married or in a committed relationship.<\/p>\n

\u201cIn professional and personal relationships, it\u2019s vital to declare your intent and clarify expectations,\u201d he says. \u201cThis applies regardless of gender and sexual preference. If you\u2019re open and honest about the limited, focused role your work spouse or best friend plays in your professional life, you\u2019re likely to minimize suspicion or jealousy. Talk straightforwardly so that innuendo, casual conversation or other issues don\u2019t present conflict.\u201d<\/p>\n

For Valerie Berlin and Jonathan Rosen, principals and co-founders of communications, digital and creative agency Berlin Rosen in the Financial District, there are no innuendos or family conflicts. They\u2019ve worked with each other for nearly 20 years \u2014 in fact, Berlin introduced Rosen to his wife. The co-founders own separate homes in both Park Slope and Montauk and their kids call them Aunt and Uncle.<\/p>\n

Since they live \u201chilariously close to each other\u201d (eight blocks apart) the Rosens and Berlins are quarantining together. \u201cWe agreed early on with that idea of a bubble \u2014 we\u2019d let our kids see each other, and we\u2019d see each other.\u201d<\/p>\n

During the week, they speak between a dozen and 20 times, navigating topics like remote work and communicating with employees.<\/p>\n

\u201cRunning a business with someone is like a marriage,\u201d says Rosen. \u201cYou\u2019re dealing with real, intense decisions and taking care of people and [making] judgment calls. You have to have a lot of faith in your partner. Just like in a regular marriage, you know underneath that there\u2019s fundamental trust and support.\u201d<\/p>\n

For work spouses not at their level, there are ways to nurture your relationship when you\u2019re working apart. \u201cCreate a specific time in your week for \u2018venting\u2019 to that person to get things off your chest,\u201d says Leah Weiss, PhD, lecturer at Stanford Business School and author of \u201cHow We Work: Live Your Purpose, Reclaim Your Sanity, and Embrace the Daily Grind\u201d (Harper Wave). Then, \u201cYou don\u2019t have to carry them alone or suppress them which leads to additional stress.\u201d<\/p>\n

Weiss recommends sending notes to your work spouse when you think of him or her. \u201cDevelop a ritual \u2014 have a [virtual] cup of tea together to start the week and talk about priorities or take a walking meeting to debrief on a Friday,\u201d she says.<\/p>\n

While thoughtfully reaching out is important, so is re-creating what you miss most \u2014 like laughter. Theresa O\u2019Rourke, editorial director at Remedy Health Media, a digital health platform in Midtown, is working from home in Cranford, NJ, while her boss, Amy Keller Laird, executive vice president of brand and audience development, is in Pelham, NY.<\/p>\n

\u201cIn the office, I sit in a hub that has amazing views, and Amy will hear me laughing, and then a lot of times, she\u2019ll come over. I just miss that so much,\u201d says O\u2019Rourke.<\/p>\n

Maintaining simultaneous conversations is the norm. \u201cA million Zooms a day,\u201d she says. \u201cWe\u2019re probably more in contact than we ever have been. I told Amy we should renew our vows when we\u2019re back in the office.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cOne colleague said she saw us as sisters,\u201d says Laird. \u201cWe\u2019d snap at each other and then we\u2019d be friends again in five seconds. I think it creates for the best ideas because one of us isn\u2019t afraid to say, \u2018Well, I don\u2019t like that.\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n

But what if one of the work spouses has been furloughed or let go?<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re the work spouse still standing, \u201cbe sensitive to their needs,\u201d says Clark. \u201cHave conversations about how you can be most helpful. Sometimes all they\u2019ll want is a good listener. Keep reaching out with care if they\u2019re down, and show them that you value the relationship, even if you\u2019re no longer working together.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cYou have a chosen family in New York City. I feel super lucky that by happenstance I ended up in a very good set of people, my work wife and my home wife,\u201d says Rosen. \u201cThat\u2019s one of the greatest things about the city.\u201d\n <\/p><\/div>\n

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