{"id":371157,"date":"2021-11-23T00:26:12","date_gmt":"2021-11-22T21:26:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/en.buradabiliyorum.com\/im-a-parenting-expert-its-bad-to-be-too-strict-if-you-have-daughters\/"},"modified":"2021-11-23T00:26:12","modified_gmt":"2021-11-22T21:26:12","slug":"im-a-parenting-expert-its-bad-to-be-too-strict-if-you-have-daughters","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/im-a-parenting-expert-its-bad-to-be-too-strict-if-you-have-daughters\/","title":{"rendered":"#I\u2019m a parenting expert \u2013 it\u2019s bad to be too strict if you have daughters"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>&#8220;<strong>#I\u2019m a parenting expert \u2013 it\u2019s bad to be too strict if you have daughters<\/strong>&#8221;<\/p>\n<div>\n<aside class=\"single__inline-module alignleft\">\n<\/aside>\n<p>Oh, to be a teenager again \u2013 the endless opportunities, first crushes, figuring yourself out, no back and knee pain.<\/p>\n<p>But for some it also meant dealing with strict parents and not being able to go out as much as their peers \u2013 if my mum and dad said\u00a0\u201cno\u201d, that meant \u201cno\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>But a parenting expert has revealed the potential dangers of giving your daughters too firm boundaries to live by \u2013 and they could even be life-threatening.<\/p>\n<p>Aly Pain, from California, warned parents on her\u00a0<a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@alypain\">TikTok channel<\/a>, which has attracted almost half a million followers.<\/p>\n<p>In a video, Aly explained the importance of being flexible when there are disagreements between parents and daughters \u2013 revealing that she had grown up with strict parents, and had subsequently suffered because of this.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cParents of daughters, if you\u2019re in the frame of mind where parenting is absolute authority, your word is the last word, there\u2019s no room for talking back or speaking up, their opinions aren\u2019t welcome, you\u2019ve laid down the boundaries and rules and that\u2019s how it\u2019s going to roll, let\u2019s project that into the future for a moment when they date,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"alignright size-large is-resized\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/11\/parenting-expert-too-strict-daughter-02.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=567\" alt=\"Aly Pain\" class=\"wp-image-20234832\" width=\"262\" height=\"469\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/11\/parenting-expert-too-strict-daughter-02.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=520 524w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/11\/parenting-expert-too-strict-daughter-02.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=390 393w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/11\/parenting-expert-too-strict-daughter-02.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=260 262w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/11\/parenting-expert-too-strict-daughter-02.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=130 131w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/11\/parenting-expert-too-strict-daughter-02.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 262px) 100vw, 262px\"\/><figcaption>Pain on her TikTok channel<\/figcaption><figcaption><span class=\"credit\">Courtesy of @alypain<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<p>The expert, who helps \u201cparents end painful disconnection with their teens\u201d, then asked her viewers to imagine how their daughter, now fully afraid to speak up, will let men treat her.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI started dating cuz I was looking for love in all the wrong places and never found it,\u201d she explained.<\/p>\n<p>Aly, who is now h<a href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/category\/download-scripts-themes-apps\/\" data-internallinksmanager029f6b8e52c=\"9\" title=\"Download Scripts &amp; Themes &amp; Apps\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">app<\/a>ily married to winter Olympian Jeff Pain, said that when she was younger she had never realised she was allowed to set boundaries with men.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThat\u2019s right,\u201d she explained<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThis isn\u2019t about not giving myself permission or too scared to set up a boundary \u2013 I literally didn\u2019t know I had permission to set a boundary with men.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>As a troubled teen, Aly suffered from eating disorders and anxiety and believed her parents had the final say over her life and her body.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cAnd I couldn\u2019t speak up or talk back to them,\u201d she added.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cYou know why?\u201d she asked.<\/p>\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"alignleft size-large is-resized\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/11\/parenting-expert-too-strict-daughter-04.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=567\" alt=\"Aly Pain\" class=\"wp-image-20234864\" width=\"229\" height=\"411\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/11\/parenting-expert-too-strict-daughter-04.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=456 458w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/11\/parenting-expert-too-strict-daughter-04.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=342 343w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/11\/parenting-expert-too-strict-daughter-04.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=229 229w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/11\/parenting-expert-too-strict-daughter-04.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=114 114w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/11\/parenting-expert-too-strict-daughter-04.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 229px) 100vw, 229px\"\/><figcaption><span class=\"credit\">Courtesy of @alypain<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<p>\u201cCuz that\u2019s how I was raised!\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Aly explained that she believes that if a young girl doesn\u2019t have permission to take part in a dialogue or disagree with her parents, she will find it difficult to use her voice in the real world.<\/p>\n<p>And many of Aly\u2019s viewers agreed with her, saying they\u2019d been in the same position when they were younger.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cYepppp. This was so damaging for me,\u201d one claimed.<\/p>\n<p>Another user said of her current relationship with parents: \u201cThe thing is if I speak up I get dismissed or ridiculed.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cOh the accuracy of this,\u201d wrote one viewer. \u201cShe believes that she\u2019s not deserving of basic respect and boundaries, she doesn\u2019t know.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>And another added: \u201cAhh. 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