{"id":372466,"date":"2021-11-25T23:27:53","date_gmt":"2021-11-25T20:27:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/en.buradabiliyorum.com\/im-a-behavior-expert-and-this-is-the-real-reason-some-people-are-always-late\/"},"modified":"2021-11-25T23:27:53","modified_gmt":"2021-11-25T20:27:53","slug":"im-a-behavior-expert-and-this-is-the-real-reason-some-people-are-always-late","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/im-a-behavior-expert-and-this-is-the-real-reason-some-people-are-always-late\/","title":{"rendered":"#I\u2019m a behavior expert and this is the real reason some people are always late"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_85 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-custom ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\" style=\"cursor:inherit\">Table of Contents<\/p>\n<label for=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-item-6a3f8d77cec07\" class=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-label\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #dd3333;color:#dd3333\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #dd3333;color:#dd3333\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/label><input type=\"checkbox\"  id=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-item-6a3f8d77cec07\" checked aria-label=\"Toggle\" \/><nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/im-a-behavior-expert-and-this-is-the-real-reason-some-people-are-always-late\/#BLAME_IT_ON_THE_PARENTS\" >BLAME IT ON THE PARENTS<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<p>&#8220;<strong>#I\u2019m a behavior expert and this is the real reason some people are always late<\/strong>&#8221;<\/p>\n<div>\n<aside class=\"single__inline-module alignleft\">\n<\/aside>\n<p>If you\u2019re forever running around trying to get from A to B then it\u2019s likely you\u2019re the friend or family member who is always late.<\/p>\n<p>Being late can cause friction, missed dinner reservations and train bookings, not to mention arguments \u2014 which are never great for\u00a0<a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.thesun.co.uk\/fabulous\/relationship-advice\/\">relationships<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>While being late, to most people, is seen as a negative trait and bad mannered, experts have said that this isn\u2019t actually the case.<\/p>\n<p>Psychotherapist Somia Zaman, who specialises in\u00a0<a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.thesun.co.uk\/fabulous\/2490093\/cognitive-behavioural-therapy-cbt\/\">cognitive behavioural therapy\u00a0<\/a>and\u00a0<a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.thesun.co.uk\/fabulous\/15024443\/prince-harrys-emdr-therapy-how-does-treatment-work\/\">Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing<\/a>\u00a0(EMDR) said that when people are late, it\u2019s not that they are deliberately trying to do it \u2013 or that they don\u2019t care about other people\u2019s feelings.<\/p>\n<p>She explained that some people are just natural born optimists who believe they are able to successfully manage everything in their hectic schedules.<\/p>\n<p>Somia said that these people are referred to as \u2018over schedulers\u2019 and will often pack too much into one day.<\/p>\n<p>She added that these people are even more likely to be late if they are chatty types, as they are more likely to over-run, making them late for their next <a href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/category\/download-scripts-themes-apps\/\" data-internallinksmanager029f6b8e52c=\"9\" title=\"Download Scripts &amp; Themes &amp; Apps\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">app<\/a>ointment or meeting.<\/p>\n<p>But these people aren\u2019t always happy to be running around like a headless chickens and often, have issues saying no to things, Somia said.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cSome over-schedulers are people who have trouble saying no, fearing they may offend someone, or miss out on an important opportunity (FOMO). In this case, their unrealistic plans for the day are a reflection of their worries rather than their excitement\u201d, she told\u00a0<a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/metro.co.uk\/2021\/11\/24\/the-science-behind-why-some-people-are-always-late-15650841\/\">Metro<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>But Somia says that others fully embrace their lateness, just like\u00a0Kanye West\u00a0did in his 2007 Stronger track, where he tells listeners \u2018y\u2019all should be honoured by my lateness\u2019.<\/p>\n<p>Somia said that people with these personalities often are \u2018self fulfilling prophecy types\u2019.<\/p>\n<p>This, she said, is when a person has made lateness almost part of their personal brand and doesn\u2019t even feel like they have to try and be on time anymore as it\u2019s what people have come to expect of them.<\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"1024\" height=\"682\" src=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/11\/running-late.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=1024\" alt=\"Procrastinating  and over-scheduling are two tendencies that contribute to lateness.\" class=\"wp-image-20272347\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/11\/running-late.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=1535 1536w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/11\/running-late.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all 1024w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/11\/running-late.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=512 512w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\"\/><figcaption>Procrastinating and over-scheduling are two tendencies that contribute to lateness.<\/figcaption><figcaption><span class=\"credit\">Getty Images<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>She said that people who are late can also be\u00a0<a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.thesun.co.uk\/fabulous\/15593233\/4-signs-procrastination-is-ruining-your-sleep\/\">procrastinators<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>This group of people often find themselves preoccupied with doing something else, pushing back the task they actually need to do.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWith this group, there may be some element of executive dysfunction. But they might also be struggling with some level of anxiety, which makes the transition of leaving one place for another difficult for them\u201d, she said.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Another expert said that for some people, being late is all down to how the individual has been bought up.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"BLAME_IT_ON_THE_PARENTS\"><\/span>BLAME IT ON THE PARENTS<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>When it comes to lateness, some people may develop this trait from their parents, for example if they didn\u2019t grow up with mum and dad in the house and one parent would pick them up late every weekend, this could translate into adult life.<\/p>\n<p>Time management expert and director of\u00a0The One Moment Company, Carmel Moore, said this can go either way.<\/p>\n<p>She said if you had a parent who was always late picking you up from school, then you might be over punctual.<\/p>\n<p>This spells trouble for anyone else in your team, as if they are late, they could be regarded as an \u2018under-performer\u2019 she said.<\/p>\n<p>Another thing to consider is that not everyone\u2019s brains work in the same way.<\/p>\n<p>Somia added that people who have conditions such as\u00a0autism\u00a0or\u00a0<a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.thesun.co.uk\/fabulous\/3381355\/adhd-symptom-kids-adults-test-attention-deficit-hyperactivity-disorder\/\">ADHD<\/a>\u00a0find time management hard.<\/p>\n<p>She said that poor timing keeping often sits alongside struggling to organise things and losing items.<\/p>\n<p>If you do have one friend who is always late, there are things you can do to help, remember that there might be a reason they are late and that they could be feeling overwhelmed.<\/p>\n<p>Ask if there is any way that you can help or support them.\n                        <\/p><\/div>\n<blockquote><p><strong><span style=\"color: #ff6600;\">If you liked the article, do not forget to share it with your friends. 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