{"id":417466,"date":"2022-03-17T00:08:54","date_gmt":"2022-03-16T21:08:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/en.buradabiliyorum.com\/expert-says-you-should-never-peek-at-your-dates-social-media\/"},"modified":"2022-03-17T00:08:54","modified_gmt":"2022-03-16T21:08:54","slug":"expert-says-you-should-never-peek-at-your-dates-social-media","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/expert-says-you-should-never-peek-at-your-dates-social-media\/","title":{"rendered":"#Expert says you should never peek at your date&#8217;s social media"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_85 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-custom ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\" style=\"cursor:inherit\">Table of Contents<\/p>\n<label for=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-item-6a3bc1ac2b180\" class=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-label\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span 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class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-1'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/expert-says-you-should-never-peek-at-your-dates-social-media\/#%E2%80%9CExpert_says_you_should_never_peek_at_your_dates_social_media%E2%80%9D\" >&#8220;Expert says you should never peek at your date&#8217;s social media&#8221;<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h1><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"%E2%80%9CExpert_says_you_should_never_peek_at_your_dates_social_media%E2%80%9D\"><\/span>&#8220;Expert says you should never peek at your date&#8217;s social media&#8221;<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h1>\n<div>\n<aside class=\"single__inline-module alignleft\">\n<\/aside>\n<p>Following your new fling on Instagram can be as exciting as it is nerve-racking.<\/p>\n<p>But always viewing their Instagram stories is the best way the end the relationship before it\u2019s even begun, according to this dating expert.<\/p>\n<p>Even though it can be tempting to stalk a potential partner\u2019s <a href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/category\/social-mediaa\/\" data-internallinksmanager029f6b8e52c=\"1\" title=\"Social Media\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">social media<\/a>, trauma therapist and dating pro Lisa took to TikTok to share why it\u2019s never a good idea.<\/p>\n<p>The chances are, in the beginning stages of a relationship you will see something that you don\u2019t want to that will trigger you, the pro says.<\/p>\n<p>Especially on Instagram stories, where users can post pictures and videos that are only be seen for 24-hours.<\/p>\n<p>Unlike actual Instagram posts, which you should probably avoid anyway, stories are more likely to have less context, making you wonder who your new man is with and what he\u2019s doing.<\/p>\n<p>Lisa shared: \u201cWe are way too invested in their life for not knowing them yet, we have a much better chance of not getting triggered if we stay in our own lane.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>The girl on his Instagram story is probably his cousin or brother\u2019s girlfriend, but when you don\u2019t know enough about your new man, you automatically think the worst.<\/p>\n<div class=\"wp-block-columns\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-column\">\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"682\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/03\/Dating3.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=682\" alt=\"TikTok user @antiairpods recommends her followers not to look at their date\u2019s Instagram stories.\" class=\"wp-image-21550612\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/03\/Dating3.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=1023 1023w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/03\/Dating3.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=682 682w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/03\/Dating3.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=341 341w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/03\/Dating3.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 682px) 100vw, 682px\"\/><figcaption>TikTok user @antiairpods recommends her followers not to look at their date\u2019s Instagram stories. <\/figcaption><figcaption><span class=\"credit\">@somymomsatherapist\/TikTok<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"wp-block-column\">\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/03\/Dating2.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=683\" alt=\"Trauma therapist Lisa double downs on @antiairpods\u2019 claim, emphasizing that you should not be \u201ctoo invested\u201d in your date\u2019s personal life.\" class=\"wp-image-21550611\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/03\/Dating2.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all 1024w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/03\/Dating2.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=683 683w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/03\/Dating2.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=341 341w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\"\/><figcaption>Trauma therapist Lisa double downs on @antiairpods\u2019 claim, emphasizing that you should not be \u201ctoo invested\u201d in your date\u2019s personal life.<br \/>\n<\/figcaption><figcaption><span class=\"credit\">@somymomsatherapist\/TikTok<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>It can be tempting to peek at who they are hanging out with when you\u2019re not there, or see what the song they posted about actually means, and is it about you, Lisa says we read way too much into these things.<\/p>\n<p>All the weird thoughts you get in the beginning of a new relationship can be stopped by focusing on yourself and getting to know them in person, not through what they post, according to the expert.<\/p>\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"alignleft size-nypost-small-post\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"231\" height=\"346\" src=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/03\/Dating1.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=231\" alt=\"Trauma therapist Lisa advises younger people to focus on meeting their dates, rather than grabbing first impressions from social media.\" class=\"wp-image-21550608\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/03\/Dating1.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=462 462w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/03\/Dating1.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=346 346w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/03\/Dating1.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=231 231w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/03\/Dating1.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all&amp;w=115 115w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/03\/Dating1.jpg?quality=90&amp;strip=all 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 231px) 100vw, 231px\"\/><figcaption>Trauma therapist Lisa advises younger people to focus on meeting their dates, rather than grabbing first impressions from social media.<\/figcaption><figcaption><span class=\"credit\">@somymomsatherapist\/TikTok<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<p>It\u2019s a big no-no in the dating world, if you want to show you are interested in what your new beau is up, there are better ways to do it.<\/p>\n<p>Viewers agreed with the dating pro\u2019s advice: \u201cNot having them on social media has helped my anxiety so much!\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Another added: \u201c100%! plus you allow real emotion connection to grow without the jealousy, irritation and craziness muddling the waters.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>While a third said: \u201cI feel like I could find a red flag or ick watching their stories, I can\u2019t resist watching them!\u201d<\/p>\n<p>And another shared: \u201cThis was me yesterday thinking \u2018innocent viewing pleasure\u2019, yep got in my own head.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><em>This story originally <a href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/category\/download-scripts-themes-apps\/\" data-internallinksmanager029f6b8e52c=\"9\" title=\"Download Scripts &amp; Themes &amp; Apps\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">app<\/a>eared\u00a0<a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.thesun.co.uk\/fabulous\/17964387\/dating-expert-dont-watch-instagram-stories\/\">on The Sun<\/a>\u00a0and was reproduced here with permission.<\/em>\n                        <\/div>\n<blockquote><p><strong><span style=\"color: #ff6600;\">If you liked the article, do not forget to share it with your friends. 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