{"id":427617,"date":"2022-04-06T23:35:53","date_gmt":"2022-04-06T20:35:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/en.buradabiliyorum.com\/my-ordeal-made-me-a-better-woman\/"},"modified":"2022-04-06T23:35:53","modified_gmt":"2022-04-06T20:35:53","slug":"my-ordeal-made-me-a-better-woman","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/my-ordeal-made-me-a-better-woman\/","title":{"rendered":"#&#8217;My ordeal made me a better woman&#8217;"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_85 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-custom ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\" style=\"cursor:inherit\">Table of Contents<\/p>\n<label for=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-item-6a40dd4576ef1\" class=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-label\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #dd3333;color:#dd3333\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #dd3333;color:#dd3333\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/label><input type=\"checkbox\"  id=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-item-6a40dd4576ef1\" checked aria-label=\"Toggle\" \/><nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-1'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/my-ordeal-made-me-a-better-woman\/#%E2%80%9C%E2%80%98My_ordeal_made_me_a_better_woman%E2%80%9D\" >&#8220;&#8216;My ordeal made me a better woman&#8217;&#8221;<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h1>&#8220;&#8216;My ordeal made me a better woman'&#8221;<\/h1>\n<div>\n<aside class=\"single__inline-module alignleft\">\n<\/aside>\n<p>Tracey Ferrin\u2019s husband, Nick, vowed to stick with her through sickness and in health.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>But, in September 2001, after a year of marriage,  the then 18-year-old was diagnosed with osteosarcoma \u2014 an extremely rare bone cancer \u2014 in her right leg. And he hit the road.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThe day he left me, I was in my bedroom, and I had just thrown up from the chemo,\u201d Ferrin told The Post.<\/p>\n<p>Now 38, Ferrin, a fitness instructor, sees her private story reflected in the headlines. On Monday, St. Louis Cardinals player Albert Pujols, 42, announced his forthcoming divorce from wife of two decades, Deidre \u2014 who underwent brain surgery to remove a tumor Saturday.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI\u2019ve been asked a lot of questions over the past few days regarding what\u2019s been going on at home and sadly, after 22 years of marriage, I have made the decision to file for divorce from my wife, Deidre,\u201d said the athlete in a statement. He and Deidre share five children.\u00a0<\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"1024\" height=\"682\" src=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/04\/cancer-survivor-Tracey-Ferrin.jpg?w=1024\" alt=\"Cancer survivor Tracey Ferrin recalls her husband leaving after she'd been diagnosed with a rare form of cancer.\" class=\"wp-image-21807021\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/04\/cancer-survivor-Tracey-Ferrin.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all&amp;w=1535 1536w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/04\/cancer-survivor-Tracey-Ferrin.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all 1024w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/04\/cancer-survivor-Tracey-Ferrin.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all&amp;w=512 512w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\"\/><figcaption>Cancer survivor Tracey Ferrin recalls her husband leaving after she\u2019d been diagnosed with a rare form of cancer. <\/figcaption><figcaption><span class=\"credit\">colinbalfe<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"870\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/04\/Albert-Pujols-Deidre-2.jpg?w=870\" alt=\"MLB slugger Albert Puljos announced his decision to divorce his wife of 22 years, Deidre, after she underwent brain tumor removal surgery. \" class=\"wp-image-21790386\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/04\/Albert-Pujols-Deidre-2.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all&amp;w=1740 1740w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/04\/Albert-Pujols-Deidre-2.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all&amp;w=1305 1305w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/04\/Albert-Pujols-Deidre-2.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all&amp;w=870 870w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/04\/Albert-Pujols-Deidre-2.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all&amp;w=435 435w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/04\/Albert-Pujols-Deidre-2.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 870px) 100vw, 870px\"\/><figcaption>MLB slugger Albert Pujols announced his decision to divorce his wife of 22 years, Deidre, after she underwent brain tumor removal surgery. <\/figcaption><figcaption><span class=\"credit\">GC Images<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>\u201cAs a devout Christian, this is an outcome that I never wanted to see h<a href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/category\/download-scripts-themes-apps\/\" data-internallinksmanager029f6b8e52c=\"9\" title=\"Download Scripts &amp; Themes &amp; Apps\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">app<\/a>en,\u201d continued Pujols, who also acknowledged that his breakup coincides with baseball season\u2019s opening day, April 7. \u201cFor many long days and nights, I prayed, asking the Lord for His guidance.\u201d (Deidre did not respond to The Post\u2019s request for comment.)<\/p>\n<p>For Ferrin, the MLB player\u2019s announcement brought back memories of her husband\u2019s abandonment.<\/p>\n<p>It was just days after the 9\/11 terrorist attacks, when her sickness became more than Nick, then 20, could bear.\u00a0\u201cI think seeing me throw up is what triggered him,\u201d recalled Ferrin, who lives in Houston, Texas. She chose not to disclose Nick\u2019s last name for privacy reasons.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI don\u2019t remember exactly what he said to me,\u201d she admitted of her ex, who died by suicide in 2016, \u201cbut he called a friend to come and pick him up, packed a bag and left.\u201c<\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"1024\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/04\/Tracey-Ferrin-2.jpg?w=1024\" alt=\"A month into her chemotherapy treatments, Ferrin's ex-husband, Nick, left her and their 10-month-old daughter Elly.\" class=\"wp-image-21790308\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/04\/Tracey-Ferrin-2.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all&amp;w=1536 1536w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/04\/Tracey-Ferrin-2.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all 1024w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/04\/Tracey-Ferrin-2.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all&amp;w=512 512w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\"\/><figcaption>A month into her chemotherapy treatments, Ferrin\u2019s ex-husband, Nick, left her and their 10-month-old daughter, Elly.<\/figcaption><figcaption><span class=\"credit\">Courtesy Tracey Ferrin<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>And to make matters worse, at the time of her diagnosis and Nick\u2019s abrupt departure, she was six months pregnant with their second daughter. Their first child, Elly, was only 10 months old.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI was totally heartbroken, crying and I begged him to stay, but he didn\u2019t,\u201d said Ferrin, who, during her third trimester, began treatment at the University of Texas MD Anderson Cancer Center.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWhile I was going through chemo, doctors told me that it\u2019s much more common for men to leave when a woman is sick than it is for a woman leaving when her husband gets sick,\u201d she said.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Beyond the Pujols, there are other high-profile examples: former senator and presidential candidate John Edwards, 68, from North Carolina, notoriously confessed to engaging in an extramarital affair while his since-deceased wife, Elizabeth Edwards, grappled with breast cancer, before she died in 2010. They were married for 33 years.<\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"1024\" height=\"680\" src=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/04\/yolanda-hadid-david-foster.jpg?w=1024\" alt=\"Music heavyweight David Foster ultimately ended his seven-year marriage to Yolanda Hadid in 2017, after her complications with Lyme disease proved to be too much for him to handle. \" class=\"wp-image-21805556\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/04\/yolanda-hadid-david-foster.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all&amp;w=1535 1536w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/04\/yolanda-hadid-david-foster.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all 1024w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/04\/yolanda-hadid-david-foster.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all&amp;w=512 512w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\"\/><figcaption>Music heavyweight David Foster ultimately ended his marriage to Yolanda Hadid in 2017, after her complications with Lyme disease proved to be too much for him to handle. <\/figcaption><figcaption><span class=\"credit\">Alberto E. Rodriguez<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>Then there\u2019s music magnate David Foster, 72, whose former wife and ex \u201cReal Housewives of Beverly Hills\u201d star Yolanda Hadid, 58, struggled with a Lyme disease diagnosis. In her 2015 memoir, \u201cBelieve Me: My Battle With the Invisibility of Lyme Disease,\u201d the veteran supermodel described how the insomnia, joint pain and exhaustion brought on from her disorder rendered Foster \u2014 who later married \u201cAmerican Idol\u201d alum Katharine McPhee, 38, in 2019 \u2014  \u201cunhappy\u201d in their union. <\/p>\n<p>But, \u201cif he didn\u2019t leave the marriage I would not be where I am today,\u201d she wrote.<\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"768\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/04\/Tracey-Ferrin-3.jpg?w=768\" alt=\"Ferrin advises others with similar experiences to find the silver-lining in their personal tragedy. \" class=\"wp-image-21790517\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/04\/Tracey-Ferrin-3.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all&amp;w=1536 1536w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/04\/Tracey-Ferrin-3.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all&amp;w=1152 1152w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/04\/Tracey-Ferrin-3.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all&amp;w=768 768w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/04\/Tracey-Ferrin-3.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all&amp;w=384 384w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/04\/Tracey-Ferrin-3.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px\"\/><figcaption>Ferrin advises others with similar experiences to find the silver lining in their personal tragedy. <\/figcaption><figcaption><span class=\"credit\">Courtesy of Tracey Ferrin<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>Ferrin \u2014 who ultimately gave birth to a healthy baby girl, Fayth, now 20, and whose cancer has been in remission for the past two decades \u2014 said the same is true for her.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI always say, \u2018If a man can\u2019t handle you at your worst, he doesn\u2019t [deserve to] get you at your best,\u2019 \u201d said Ferrin, adding that she holds no ill-will towards her late ex. \u201cAnd if cancer [wasn\u2019t the thing that caused Nick to leave], something else would have drove him away.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>After divorcing Nick in 2003, she went on to marry her current husband, Ryan, with whom she shares sons Bubba, 17, and Noah, 13. And she authored her self-help tome \u201cUp Struggle: Embrace the Struggle, Become Stronger, Live Happier,\u201d in 2020.\u00a0<\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"1024\" height=\"768\" src=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/04\/Tracey-Ferrin.jpg?w=1024\" alt=\"Ferrin went on to give birth to a health baby girl, remarry and welcome two more children with her new husband, Ryan. \" class=\"wp-image-21790472\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/04\/Tracey-Ferrin.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all&amp;w=1536 1536w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/04\/Tracey-Ferrin.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all 1024w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/04\/Tracey-Ferrin.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all&amp;w=512 512w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\"\/><figcaption>Ferrin went on to give birth to a healthy baby girl, remarry and welcome two more children with her new husband, Ryan. <\/figcaption><figcaption><span class=\"credit\">Courtesy of Tracey Ferrin<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>\u201cMy experiences have made me stronger. I\u2019ve learned empathy and compassion for others,\u201d Ferrin told The Post. \u201cI\u2019m not grateful for cancer, but I\u2019m grateful for the life lessons it taught me, and how the ordeal made me a better woman.\u201d\n                        <\/p><\/div>\n<blockquote><p><strong><span style=\"color: #ff6600;\">If you liked the article, do not forget to share it with your friends. 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