{"id":453957,"date":"2022-05-28T02:44:51","date_gmt":"2022-05-27T23:44:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/en.buradabiliyorum.com\/we-overlook-a-significant-factor-in-mass-shootings-fatherlessness\/"},"modified":"2022-05-28T02:44:51","modified_gmt":"2022-05-27T23:44:51","slug":"we-overlook-a-significant-factor-in-mass-shootings-fatherlessness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/we-overlook-a-significant-factor-in-mass-shootings-fatherlessness\/","title":{"rendered":"#We overlook a significant factor in mass shootings: fatherlessness"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_84 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-custom ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\" style=\"cursor:inherit\">Table of Contents<\/p>\n<label for=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-item-6a2d226a4f8c3\" class=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-label\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #dd3333;color:#dd3333\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #dd3333;color:#dd3333\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/label><input type=\"checkbox\"  id=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-item-6a2d226a4f8c3\" checked aria-label=\"Toggle\" \/><nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-1'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/we-overlook-a-significant-factor-in-mass-shootings-fatherlessness\/#%E2%80%9CWe_overlook_a_significant_factor_in_mass_shootings_fatherlessness%E2%80%9D\" >&#8220;We overlook a significant factor in mass shootings: fatherlessness&#8221;<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h1><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"%E2%80%9CWe_overlook_a_significant_factor_in_mass_shootings_fatherlessness%E2%80%9D\"><\/span>&#8220;We overlook a significant factor in mass shootings: fatherlessness&#8221;<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h1>\n<div>\n<aside class=\"single__inline-module alignleft\">\n<\/aside>\n<p>When tragedy strikes, we tend to be left with more questions than answers. As we grieve, those initial questions lead us to search out who or what we can blame it on. We want an im<a href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/category\/social-mediaa\/\" data-internallinksmanager029f6b8e52c=\"1\" title=\"Social Media\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">media<\/a>te, simple solution for often-complex situations.<\/p>\n<p>Every publicized mass-shooting incident elicits the same rhetoric of gun control from the \u201cleft\u201d and reactionary gun-rights protection from the \u201cright.\u201d We dig into the assailant\u2019s social-media history to find out what he was interested in and inquire about his video-<a href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/category\/game\/\" data-internallinksmanager029f6b8e52c=\"7\" title=\"Game\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">game<\/a> usage.<\/p>\n<p>We do everything possible to find the root cause of a broken man showing such disregard for life \u2014 yet we consistently overlook a significant contributing factor: fatherlessness.<\/p>\n<p>So there is no misunderstanding: No matter how horrible your childhood was, it does not give you license to take the lives of innocent people. Like everyone else, I have no tolerance for such an act of evil. <\/p>\n<p>At the same time, I recognize that people aren\u2019t born murderers; they\u2019re a creation of life experiences that lead them to decide to cross that line.<\/p>\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"alignright size-nypost-small-post\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"231\" height=\"347\" src=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/05\/Salvador-Ramos-5.jpg?w=231\" alt=\"Alleged gunman Salvador Ramos \" class=\"wp-image-22446098\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/05\/Salvador-Ramos-5.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all&amp;w=462 462w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/05\/Salvador-Ramos-5.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all&amp;w=347 346w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/05\/Salvador-Ramos-5.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all&amp;w=231 231w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/05\/Salvador-Ramos-5.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all&amp;w=116 115w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/05\/Salvador-Ramos-5.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 231px) 100vw, 231px\"\/><figcaption>Alleged gunman Salvador Ramos did not live with his father.<\/figcaption><figcaption><span class=\"credit\">\u00a9ZUMA Press Wire Service<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<p>A child\u2019s most important parental figure is the same-sex parent because children model themselves after them. For young men, having that father figure in their lives provides a blueprint for manhood and a source of protection from the outside world. <\/p>\n<p>The world can at times be harsh for young men, but your father is supposed to be your source of security, a builder of confidence and a teacher for how to regulate your emotions in stressful situations. Most crucial, the father is the son\u2019s purpose compass as he helps guide him throughout the trials of adolescence towards purposeful adulthood. <\/p>\n<p>But what h<a href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/category\/download-scripts-themes-apps\/\" data-internallinksmanager029f6b8e52c=\"9\" title=\"Download Scripts &amp; Themes &amp; Apps\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">app<\/a>ens when there is no father in a child\u2019s life? What happens to those boys when their compass is nowhere to be found? They all too often become lost boys and grow into lost men.<\/p>\n<p>I know this feeling of being lost because I was that lost boy \u2014 I also grew up without my father in my life. I understand what it feels like to be confused about how to be a man, feeling like you\u2019re not being advocated for and becoming depressed to the point of considering suicide.<\/p>\n<p>What people misunderstand about mass shooters is that they are more suicidal than homicidal. To do something of this nature, you have to no longer care whether you live or die. The action of taking other people\u2019s lives in the process of killing themselves is a way for them to grab attention on the way out because they\u2019ve spent a significant portion of their lives feeling invisible.<\/p>\n<p>Men with unregulated emotions and hopelessness and without a positive purpose are either a danger to themselves or others in any society. When they\u2019re raised without proper instruction, we cannot be surprised when they choose chaos in the form of drugs like fentanyl or a gun as their instrument to express their dysfunction.<\/p>\n<aside class=\"single__inline-module alignleft\">\n    <\/aside>\n<p>Since the Columbine school-shooting days, access to guns hasn\u2019t changed much yet the rate of mass shootings has steadily increased. I believe it\u2019s because there is a crisis among our young men who are growing up in homes where they are disconnected from their fathers either physically or emotionally.<\/p>\n<p>This was the situation with Uvalde, Texas, shooter Salvador Ramos, who not only didn\u2019t live with his father but hadn\u2019t seen him since the pandemic\u2019s start. The father and son hadn\u2019t even been on speaking terms for the last month. <\/p>\n<p>\u201cMy mom tells me he probably would have shot me too because he would always say I didn\u2019t love him,\u201d the father, who was also estranged from the shooter\u2019s sister, told The Daily Beast.<\/p>\n<p>About 25% of children in America are growing up in single-parent households \u2014 three times the rate in 1960 \u2014 the majority of whom lack daily interactions with their fathers (if any at all).<\/p>\n<p>Their fathers aren\u2019t there to protect them from professionals who want to shove drugs like Ritalin down their throat for being an active boy and not a docile girl. Their fathers aren\u2019t there to talk them off the ledge of hopelessness with love and guide them towards prosperity.<\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"1024\" height=\"682\" src=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/05\/Fentanyl.jpg?w=1024\" alt=\"92.5 pounds (42 kilograms) of illicit fentanyl displayed in Alameda, Calif. \" class=\"wp-image-22446628\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/05\/Fentanyl.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all&amp;w=1535 1536w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/05\/Fentanyl.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all 1024w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/05\/Fentanyl.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all&amp;w=512 512w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\"\/><figcaption>Drug abuse, with opioids like fentanyl, and guns have been a problem for those who have feelings of hopelessness. <\/figcaption><figcaption><span class=\"credit\">Alameda County Sheriff&#8217;s Office via AP<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>As a father to a teenage boy, I see clearly how critical I am for the growth and stability of my son. Simultaneously, I see how so many other boys, who were just like myself, are in desperate need of a father\u2019s guidance \u2014 yet we\u2019ve reduced fatherhood to being about what we provide monetarily.<\/p>\n<p>Our boys are being forgotten, and being treated as such creates chaos for us all.<\/p>\n<p><em><a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/wrong_speak\">Adam Coleman<\/a> is the author of \u201cBlack Victim To Black Victor\u201d and founder of Wrong Speak Publishing.<\/em>\n                        <\/div>\n<p><script async src=\"\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><strong><span style=\"color: #ff6600;\">If you liked the article, do not forget to share it with your friends. 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