{"id":487119,"date":"2022-08-23T17:20:11","date_gmt":"2022-08-23T14:20:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/en.buradabiliyorum.com\/women-are-more-likely-to-cheat-than-men-heres-why\/"},"modified":"2022-08-23T17:20:11","modified_gmt":"2022-08-23T14:20:11","slug":"women-are-more-likely-to-cheat-than-men-heres-why","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/women-are-more-likely-to-cheat-than-men-heres-why\/","title":{"rendered":"#Women are more likely to cheat than men \u2013 here\u2019s why"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_85 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-custom ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\" style=\"cursor:inherit\">Table of Contents<\/p>\n<label for=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-item-6a3e051e0dd55\" class=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-label\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #dd3333;color:#dd3333\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #dd3333;color:#dd3333\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/label><input type=\"checkbox\"  id=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-item-6a3e051e0dd55\" checked aria-label=\"Toggle\" \/><nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-1'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/women-are-more-likely-to-cheat-than-men-heres-why\/#%E2%80%9CWomen_are_more_likely_to_cheat_than_men_%E2%80%93_heres_why%E2%80%9D\" >&#8220;Women are more likely to cheat than men \u2013 here\u2019s why&#8221;<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-3' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-3'><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-3' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/women-are-more-likely-to-cheat-than-men-heres-why\/#The_reasons_women_cheat\" >The reasons women cheat<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/women-are-more-likely-to-cheat-than-men-heres-why\/#Looking_after_lust_and_libido\" >Looking after lust and libido<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h1><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"%E2%80%9CWomen_are_more_likely_to_cheat_than_men_%E2%80%93_heres_why%E2%80%9D\"><\/span>&#8220;Women are more likely to cheat than men \u2013 here\u2019s why&#8221;<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h1>\n<div>\n<aside class=\"single__inline-module alignleft\">\n<\/aside>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/category\/sciencee\/\" data-internallinksmanager029f6b8e52c=\"5\" title=\"Science\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Science<\/a> is finding that women struggle more than men when it comes to staying faithful in\u00a0relationships.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cEven when your marriage is good, you still miss that rush of feeling so excited you can\u2019t eat or sleep when you\u2019re having such an intense time emotionally and sexually with a new person. That\u2019s what I kept going after, and what I couldn\u2019t say no to.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s how Annika*, 45, from Melbourne, describes her experiences with cheating, and she\u2019s far from alone. According to\u00a0<a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.bodyandsoul.com.au\/sex-relationships\/relationships\/how-many-people-have-cheated-on-their-partner\/news-story\/4174f3ab1c4ba938a1871b540751004f\">a growing body of research<\/a>, many women in long-term relationships are sexually adventurous and have secret lovers.<\/p>\n<p>The view that it\u2019s mostly men who cheat because their partners lose interest in sex is outdated. Science says that it\u2019s actually women who struggle more with monogamy because they\u00a0<a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.bodyandsoul.com.au\/sex-relationships\/sex\/a-sexologist-shares-her-advice-for-a-sex-life-that-doesnt-suck\/news-story\/c4238925cf9080a6801caaf879fd297d\">get bored in the bedroom<\/a>. Women crave sexual variety and while some stifle their desire, others will be unfaithful.<\/p>\n<p>Wednesday Martin, an anthropologist and author of\u00a0\u201cUntrue,\u201d refers to this new research as \u201cthe great correction.\u201d Martin interviewed dozens of sociologists, sex researchers and anthropologists for her book on female infidelity and says the sad, sorry picture painted of the\u00a0<a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.bodyandsoul.com.au\/health\/mens-health\/the-surprising-thing-your-lowlibido-is-telling-you-about-your-diet\/news-story\/ac3574706240d24089b2580833958e9a\">female libido<\/a>\u00a0is grossly wrong. It is alive and kicking \u2014 and eager to be satisfied.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThe new research is correcting false notions that women have lesser libidos, that women are more naturally monogamous and that it\u2019s easier for women to partner for life,\u201d explains Martin. \u201cWomen don\u2019t like sex less [than men] \u2014 but they do get bored of sexual sameness.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>While males may have higher levels of spontaneous desire, women take the lead for responsive or triggered desire.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cSpontaneous desire is when you suddenly think, \u2018It would be nice to have sex.\u2019 It comes over you like hunger or thirst,\u201d says Martin. \u201cResponsive or triggered desire occurs when something suggests the idea of sex to you \u2014 you\u2019re watching or reading something, or a partner initiates a sexual encounter \u2014 and you get turned on. For that type of desire, women\u2019s libidos are every bit as strong as men\u2019s. We\u2019ve internalized this idea that men are the randier sex and that\u2019s untrue.\u201d<\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"683\" src=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/08\/shutterstock_1311350555.jpg?w=1024\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-23571654\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/08\/shutterstock_1311350555.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all&amp;w=2048 2048w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/08\/shutterstock_1311350555.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all&amp;w=1536 1536w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/08\/shutterstock_1311350555.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all 1024w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/08\/shutterstock_1311350555.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all&amp;w=512 512w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\"\/><figcaption>While males may have higher levels of spontaneous desire, women have more triggered desire.<\/figcaption><figcaption><span class=\"credit\">Shutterstock<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The_reasons_women_cheat\"><\/span>The reasons women cheat<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Martin says the myth that women cheat for emotional reasons while men cheat for sexual reasons is also being overturned. She cites research by Missouri State University on a group of women who used the Ashley Madison website specifically to cheat.<\/p>\n<aside class=\"single__inline-module alignleft\">\n    <\/aside>\n<p>\u201c[This research] explodes several of our most dearly held notions about female infidelity: that women cheat only when they are unh<a href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/category\/download-scripts-themes-apps\/\" data-internallinksmanager029f6b8e52c=\"9\" title=\"Download Scripts &amp; Themes &amp; Apps\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">app<\/a>y in their marriages; that unlike men, they seek emotional connection, not sexual gratification; and that women just \u2018stumble\u2019 into affairs,\u201d says Martin.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThe women studied went on the site, created a profile, vetted candidates, met them in person and \u2018auditioned\u2019 them. This was a very intentional process. They wanted to find partners for sex. They reported being in sexless or orgasm-less marriages and they simply wanted what they couldn\u2019t get at home. But most were otherwise happily partnered or married, and these affairs were a way for them to remain in their primary relationships. So, there goes the myth that women who cheat are unhappily married.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Another critical piece of research from Dr. Marta Meana at the University of Nevada found that \u201cinstitutionalization\u201d in a long-term partnership dampens women\u2019s sexual desire more than men\u2019s. Men who have regular sex with their partners are more satisfied sexually and with their relationship, but it\u2019s not the same for the women, she says.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cNow sex researchers are entertaining the possibility that women simply need variety and novelty of sexual experience more than men do,\u201d Martin says.<\/p>\n<aside class=\"single__inline-module alignright\">\n    <\/aside>\n<p>It\u2019s a notion women like Gabriella*, 28, from Sydney, have been aware of for some time. \u201cI\u2019ve had lots of affairs since my first long-term relationship when I was at university,\u201d Gabriella says. \u201cI love sex and I get bored easily, but men take [an affair] as an affront to their masculinity. They all think they should be \u2018enough\u2019 for me and when I try and discuss ways of keeping the interest alive, they treat me as if I\u2019m not \u2018normal.\u2019 What should \u2018normal\u2019 be \u2014 a woman who lies back and puts up with boring sex just for the sake of it? That\u2019s the story women have been sold and it\u2019s just wrong.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Further exploding the myth that women are made for monogamy is the work of biopsychologist Meredith Chivers at Queen\u2019s University, Canada. Chivers and her team invited men and women to watch porn while they had monitors on their bodies to measure their physical response and blood flow, which showed their sexual arousal. Straight men were mostly turned on by images of heterosexual sex and women having sex with women, but the heterosexual women had a more varied \u201carousal menu.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWomen\u2019s bodies responded to men having sex with men, women having sex with women, men and women having sex and images of an erection. We traditionally think men get turned on by everything and the truth is that a woman\u2019s body responds to more sexual stimuli,\u201d says Martin.<\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"1024\" height=\"682\" src=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/08\/Women-dating-feature.jpg?w=1024\" alt=\"Women can spice things up by talking to their partner about sexual variety.\" class=\"wp-image-23571729\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/08\/Women-dating-feature.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all&amp;w=1535 1536w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/08\/Women-dating-feature.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all 1024w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/08\/Women-dating-feature.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all&amp;w=512 512w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\"\/><figcaption>Women can spice things up by talking to their partner about sexual variety.<\/figcaption><figcaption><span class=\"credit\">Shutterstock<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Looking_after_lust_and_libido\"><\/span>Looking after lust and libido<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>So, does the unleashed female libido always lead to infidelity? It doesn\u2019t have to, says Martin. Not if women can talk frankly to their partner about their desire for sexual variety and adventure. She says this can avoid the inevitable boredom that besets many long-term relationships.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWomen start providing service sex. \u2018He wants it, I really don\u2019t but I will get it over with.\u2019 Then women get into the cycle of thinking, \u2018I guess I don\u2019t really like sex.\u2019 It\u2019s actually that they\u2019re not liking sex with the partner they\u2019ve been with for many years,\u201d she explains.<\/p>\n<p>A simple thing couples can do is start a new, exciting activity together, such as learning how to kayak or dance together. \u201cCouples get a rush of the neurochemicals and hormones similar to when we experience puppy love. So, you can get that feeling of excitement without going outside your relationship,\u201d she explains.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cImagine how much better relationships would be if couples understood that when a woman starts to feel sexually bored, this didn\u2019t have to mean the end. Think of the marriages and relationships that could be improved if women could discuss their desire for sexual adventure and work with their partner to find solutions that bring them closer together.\u201d\n                        <\/p><\/div>\n<blockquote><p><strong><span style=\"color: #ff6600;\">If you liked the article, do not forget to share it with your friends. 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