{"id":490649,"date":"2022-09-06T10:00:00","date_gmt":"2022-09-06T07:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/en.buradabiliyorum.com\/i-told-my-girlfriend-she-ordered-too-much-at-her-birthday-dinner\/"},"modified":"2022-09-06T10:00:00","modified_gmt":"2022-09-06T07:00:00","slug":"i-told-my-girlfriend-she-ordered-too-much-at-her-birthday-dinner","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/i-told-my-girlfriend-she-ordered-too-much-at-her-birthday-dinner\/","title":{"rendered":"#I told my girlfriend she ordered too much at her birthday dinner"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_85 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-custom ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\" style=\"cursor:inherit\">Table of Contents<\/p>\n<label for=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-item-6a3b49975ffad\" class=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-label\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #dd3333;color:#dd3333\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #dd3333;color:#dd3333\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/label><input type=\"checkbox\"  id=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-item-6a3b49975ffad\" checked aria-label=\"Toggle\" \/><nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-1'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/i-told-my-girlfriend-she-ordered-too-much-at-her-birthday-dinner\/#%E2%80%9CI_told_my_girlfriend_she_ordered_too_much_at_her_birthday_dinner%E2%80%9D\" >&#8220;I told my girlfriend she ordered too much at her birthday dinner&#8221;<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h1><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"%E2%80%9CI_told_my_girlfriend_she_ordered_too_much_at_her_birthday_dinner%E2%80%9D\"><\/span>&#8220;I told my girlfriend she ordered too much at her birthday dinner&#8221;<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h1>\n<div>\n<aside class=\"single__inline-module alignleft\">\n<div class=\"inline-module inline-module--columnist inline-module--author\">\n<div class=\"inline-module--author__img\">\n            <img decoding=\"async\" width=\"76\" height=\"69\" src=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/08\/Dear_Abby_New.png?w=76&amp;h=69&amp;crop=1\" class=\"attachment-nyp_columnist size-nyp_columnist\" alt=\"Dear Abby\" loading=\"lazy\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/08\/Dear_Abby_New.png 152w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/08\/Dear_Abby_New.png?w=114 114w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/08\/Dear_Abby_New.png?w=76 76w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/08\/Dear_Abby_New.png?w=38 38w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 76px) 100vw, 76px\"\/>       <\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/aside>\n<p><strong>DEAR ABBY:<\/strong> Every year my girlfriend and I take each other out for dinner on our birthdays and bring a gift. This year, even though I am currently experiencing financial hardship, I bought her a gift and offered her dinner.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>At the restaurant, she ordered the largest portion of what she wanted. She stated it\u2019s what she always orders in that restaurant. I responded that she always takes half of it home, and that I had offered to buy her dinner for that night, not for two days. She got very angry and said I was ruining her birthday.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>She then said she\u2019d pay for her own meal. I declined her offer and paid, but now I\u2019m wondering if I was wrong. She did pay for half the <a href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/category\/download-scripts-themes-apps\/\" data-internallinksmanager029f6b8e52c=\"9\" title=\"Download Scripts &amp; Themes &amp; Apps\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">app<\/a>etizer, which I didn\u2019t want or eat, and she left the tip. Should have told her before we went out to dinner that I was on a tighter budget? Can our relationship be saved?<em> \u2014 LOSING IN LAS VEGAS<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>DEAR LOSING: <\/strong>Strong relationships thrive when there is honest communication. You and the Birthday Girl have been seeing each other for an extended period of time. If money is tight, you should have mentioned it long before her birthday rolled around. Yes, she should have been aware of it before you invited her to dinner. Because she wasn\u2019t, I can understand why she might have been put off by what she may have interpreted as a snide comment rather than a cry for help. Can your relationship be saved? Yes, as long as you two <em>really<\/em> start talking to each other.<\/p>\n<aside class=\"single__inline-module alignright\">\n    <\/aside>\n<p><strong>DEAR ABBY: <\/strong>I am in my early 40s. I have reconnected with a girl I dated in high school. Things are wonderful. I have come to understand that she was \u201cwronged\u201d by other men more than once in the years in between. But I have also learned it was happening during our relationship as teens. I cannot stop ripping myself in half for not realizing it was happening and doing nothing to stop it. I wasn\u2019t damaged; she was.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>I am hesitant to do anything that makes her revisit her pain, but it is something I can\u2019t let go of. I am not sure how I should proceed in the present, so that I don\u2019t let the past damage a future that seems so bright. Could you please give me a woman\u2019s point of view? <em>\u2014<\/em> <em>CAUTIOUS IN MICHIGAN<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>DEAR CAUTIOUS: <\/strong>Understand that you and this woman were very different people when you dated more than 20 years ago. I suspect my point of view is similar to what you would get from a man: If you plan to proceed with this romance, the two of you should get at least six months of couples counseling from a licensed professional.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>A lot has happened to you both in the intervening years since high school. There was nothing you could do to stop anything that happened. She was a willing participant in those failed relationships. Your future with her will be brighter once you know each other better as adults, which will involve frank communication on both of your parts.<\/p>\n<p><em>Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.<\/em>\n                        <\/div>\n<blockquote><p><strong><span style=\"color: #ff6600;\">If you liked the article, do not forget to share it with your friends. 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This year, even though I am currently experiencing financial hardship, I bought her a gift and offered her dinner.\u00a0 At the restaurant,&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":490650,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"fifu_image_url":"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/09\/woman-upset-at-dinner.jpg?quality=75&strip=all&w=1024","fifu_image_alt":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[70897],"tags":[132880,74952,70706,71293,78226],"class_list":["post-490649","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-news","tag-9-6-22","tag-advice","tag-dating","tag-dating-advice","tag-relationships"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/490649","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=490649"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/490649\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/490650"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=490649"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=490649"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=490649"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}