{"id":494552,"date":"2022-09-20T10:00:00","date_gmt":"2022-09-20T07:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/en.buradabiliyorum.com\/my-friend-says-tipping-is-a-racket\/"},"modified":"2022-09-20T10:00:00","modified_gmt":"2022-09-20T07:00:00","slug":"my-friend-says-tipping-is-a-racket","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/my-friend-says-tipping-is-a-racket\/","title":{"rendered":"#My friend says tipping is a &#8216;racket&#8217;"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_84 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-custom ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\" style=\"cursor:inherit\">Table of Contents<\/p>\n<label for=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-item-6a2570a8c2f9f\" class=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-label\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #dd3333;color:#dd3333\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #dd3333;color:#dd3333\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/label><input type=\"checkbox\"  id=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-item-6a2570a8c2f9f\" checked aria-label=\"Toggle\" \/><nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-1'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/my-friend-says-tipping-is-a-racket\/#%E2%80%9CMy_friend_says_tipping_is_a_%E2%80%98racket%E2%80%9D\" >&#8220;My friend says tipping is a &#8216;racket&#8217;&#8221;<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h1>&#8220;My friend says tipping is a &#8216;racket'&#8221;<\/h1>\n<div>\n<aside class=\"single__inline-module alignleft\">\n<div class=\"inline-module inline-module--columnist inline-module--author\">\n<div class=\"inline-module--author__img\">\n            <img decoding=\"async\" width=\"76\" height=\"69\" src=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/08\/Dear_Abby_New.png?w=76&amp;h=69&amp;crop=1\" class=\"attachment-nyp_columnist size-nyp_columnist\" alt=\"Dear Abby\" loading=\"lazy\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/08\/Dear_Abby_New.png 152w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/08\/Dear_Abby_New.png?w=114 114w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/08\/Dear_Abby_New.png?w=76 76w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2022\/08\/Dear_Abby_New.png?w=38 38w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 76px) 100vw, 76px\"\/>       <\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/aside>\n<p><strong>DEAR ABBY: <\/strong>I recently returned from an annual girls <a href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/category\/trip-and-travel\/\" data-internallinksmanager029f6b8e52c=\"10\" title=\"Trip &amp; Travel\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">trip<\/a> with my retired teachers group. We all get along well and enjoy each other\u2019s company except for one \u201cfly in the ointment\u201d who refuses to leave decent tips for great restaurant service. I\u2019m talking about $2 on a $20 tab. We all pay our own bills and tip 25% or more every time. We have mentioned the subject of tipping to her before. She says she thinks it\u2019s a \u201cracket.\u201d Is there anything we can do? \u2014 <em>CHEAPSKATE\u2019S FRIEND<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>DEAR FRIEND:<\/strong> The annual girls trip may be this woman\u2019s only splurge for the year, which may be why she\u2019s conservative when it comes to tipping. I will assume that you and the others have spoken to her about the wage scale for restaurant servers, and the fact that many of them have to share their tips with other staff. Because there\u2019s nothing you can do to change the behavior of another adult, either consider your own generous tips as balancing out her stingy ones or stop including her because she\u2019s an embarrassment.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><strong>DEAR ABBY: <\/strong>I have a good, if not terribly close, relationship with my adult son and daughter. We speak every few weeks. They live some distance away. There\u2019s no drama, no negative angst between us. My husband and I will soon be celebrating our 60th wedding anniversary. Neither our son nor our daughter has acknowledged the occasion nor asked if we wish to celebrate it. I assume they are somehow unaware of this milestone.<\/p>\n<p>Should I contact them about it? It\u2019s not like we\u2019re incommunicado or estranged, because we\u2019re not. This anniversary is a BIG deal to us, yet they seem unaware. I\u2019m blaming myself somehow. Their father has been treated for cancer and is, fortunately, deemed cancer-free now. What is your advice? \u2014 <em>READY TO CELEBRATE IN FLORIDA<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>DEAR READY: <\/strong>Your son and daughter may be so wr<a href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/category\/download-scripts-themes-apps\/\" data-internallinksmanager029f6b8e52c=\"9\" title=\"Download Scripts &amp; Themes &amp; Apps\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">app<\/a>ed up in themselves and their own lives that it hasn\u2019t occurred to them to volunteer to host something or ask what you and their father would like. Call them and raise the subject. They may be waiting to be told what, if anything, you have planned for the occasion. If they are not available, do not let that stop you from having the celebration the occasion deserves.<\/p>\n<p><strong>DEAR ABBY:<\/strong> My boyfriend broke up with me. After a few weeks, I was OK with it. Then he wanted to visit me, but I was busy that day and, truth be told, I didn\u2019t want to see him. I was going to hang out with a guy friend when my ex showed up although I had told him not to. When I went out with my friend, my ex couldn\u2019t go in my house because I didn\u2019t want him there if I wasn\u2019t there. When I returned home, my ex was mad that we went out to eat and didn\u2019t get him anything. Was I supposed to buy him food if I didn\u2019t even want him there to begin with? This happened months ago and I\u2019m still furious. \u2014 <em>DEE IN NEW YORK<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>DEAR DEE: <\/strong>Being furious is a waste of your time and energy. That your former boyfriend would force himself on you in spite of having been told he was unwelcome was rude and boorish. You did exactly the right thing by not allowing him to insert himself into your plans. I hope you are now rid of him. 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We all get along well and enjoy each other\u2019s company except for one \u201cfly in the ointment\u201d who refuses to leave decent tips for great restaurant service. 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