{"id":515995,"date":"2022-11-25T22:10:00","date_gmt":"2022-11-25T19:10:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/en.buradabiliyorum.com\/retirement-weekly-getting-older-and-losing-confidence-heres-how-to-get-it-back\/"},"modified":"2022-11-25T22:10:00","modified_gmt":"2022-11-25T19:10:00","slug":"retirement-weekly-getting-older-and-losing-confidence-heres-how-to-get-it-back","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/retirement-weekly-getting-older-and-losing-confidence-heres-how-to-get-it-back\/","title":{"rendered":"#Retirement Weekly: Getting older and losing confidence? 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Here\u2019s how to get it back.&#8221;<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-2' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/retirement-weekly-getting-older-and-losing-confidence-heres-how-to-get-it-back\/#Put_aside_self-imposed_worries_and_take_action\" >Put aside self-imposed worries and take action<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-4' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-4'><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-4' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/retirement-weekly-getting-older-and-losing-confidence-heres-how-to-get-it-back\/#Morey_Stettner\" >Morey Stettner<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h1><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"%E2%80%9CRetirement_Weekly_Getting_older_and_losing_confidence_Heres_how_to_get_it_back%E2%80%9D\"><\/span>&#8220;Retirement Weekly: Getting older and losing confidence? Here\u2019s how to get it back.&#8221;<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h1>\n<h2 class=\"article__subhead\" itemprop=\"alternativeHeadline\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Put_aside_self-imposed_worries_and_take_action\"><\/span>\n  Put aside self-imposed worries and take action<br \/>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><\/p>\n<div class=\"column column--full article__content\">\n<div class=\"article__side\">\n<div class=\"container--sticky not-active\">\n<div id=\"cx-next\" data-nosnippet>\n              <\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div id=\"js-article__body\" class=\"article__body article-wrap at16-col16 barrons-article-wrap crawler\" itemprop=\"articleBody\" data-sbid=\"WP-MKTW-0001427910\" role=\"document\">\n<div class=\"barrons-article-ad-wrapper\">\n<div data-track=\"barrons-article-ad-wrap\" class=\"barrons-article-ad sticky_item\">\n<div class=\"barrons-main-article-ad-target sticky_target body_ad\" aria-hidden=\"true\"><\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div data-layout=\"\n                inline\" data-layout-mobile=\"\" class=\"\n          media-object\n          type-InsetArticleReader\n              \n              inline\n  article__inset\n          article__inset--type-InsetArticleReader\n              article__inset--inline\n  \"><\/p>\n<div class=\"media-object-article-reader\">\n<div class=\"audioplayer\" data-sbid=\"WP-MKTW-0001427910\" role=\"region\" aria-label=\"Listen to Article\" tabindex=\"-1\" id=\"articlereader\" data-show-title=\"false\" data-theme=\"wsj-article-reader\" data-show-header=\"false\" data-show-subscribe=\"false\" data-ads-enabled=\"true\" data-save-publication=\"false\">\n        <\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p>       You can march through life with a relatively high degree of confidence. You might gain self-worth from your job, kids and friends.<\/p>\n<p> But as you age, your confidence level gets tested. You retire and lose your professional identity. Bodily changes might make you question your attractiveness. People close to you die and you\u2019re adrift.<\/p>\n<div class=\"paywall\">\n       Even if you once basked in supreme self-assurance, there\u2019s no guarantee you will continue to feel that way. Health setbacks can limit your daily experience and further erode your self-esteem.<\/p>\n<p>Researchers have found that\u00a0<a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.health.harvard.edu\/staying-healthy\/regain-your-confidence\" class=\"icon none\">one\u2019s confidence peaks in middle age<\/a>.\u00a0Professionals in their 40s and 50s are likely to reach the apex of their career and the prestige that comes with it.<\/p>\n<p>If they don\u2019t achieve job-related success, they may feel confident based on their fulfilling <a href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/category\/social-mediaa\/\" data-internallinksmanager029f6b8e52c=\"1\" title=\"Social Media\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">social<\/a> life or other achievements like raising h<a href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/category\/download-scripts-themes-apps\/\" data-internallinksmanager029f6b8e52c=\"9\" title=\"Download Scripts &amp; Themes &amp; Apps\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">app<\/a>y, healthy children.<\/p>\n<p>But confidence tends to ebb after age 60. It\u2019s hard to maintain self-worth if you\u2019re lonelier, less active and more anxious about the years ahead.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Read:<\/strong> Are you fit or frail for your age? Here\u2019s how to find out.<\/p>\n<p>Rather than let the effects of aging shake your confidence, fight back. Adopt a can-do attitude to sweep away self-doubt and embrace new experiences.<\/p>\n<p>Carol Marak, 71, hired a life coach about eight years ago. A self-described introvert, she\u2019s single, lives alone and has no adult children to rely on. She wanted to take charge of her life and expand her social circle.<\/p>\n<p>Her coach gave her a simple assignment: Strike up conversations with people.<\/p>\n<div id=\"cx-membership-tile\"><\/div>\n<p>\u201cShe urged me to get out of the house and meet strangers,\u201d said Marak, author of \u201cSolo and Smart.\u201d \u201cI started by looking the grocery-store clerk in the eye and saying, \u2018Hi, how are you?\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Read:<\/strong> The secret to a happier retirement might be in your \u2018retirement quotient\u2019<\/p>\n<p>From there, she slowly became more comfortable approaching others with the same friendly icebreaker. As a result, she found herself conversing with a diverse mix of people on a daily basis.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cIt builds on itself,\u201d Marak said. \u201cIt gave me more confidence.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>But the Dallas-based Marak didn\u2019t stop there. She prioritizes staying fit and watching her diet. She stays current with <a href=\"https:\/\/buradabiliyorum.com\/en\/category\/technology\/\" data-internallinksmanager029f6b8e52c=\"4\" title=\"Technology\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">technology<\/a>. She loves to learn new skills. And she\u2019s a speaker who shares tips on solo aging.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cSome older people watch TV all day,\u201d she said. \u201cThey feel timid, isolated and scared. They lack confidence because there\u2019s no validation. They don\u2019t feel cared about.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>On the plus side, retirees may figure they have little to lose by sampling something new. Such openness can expand their horizons.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThey may jump in and try it and think, \u2018If I fail, so what?\u2019 I\u2019ll move onto the next thing,\u201d said Melissa Davey, 72, a documentary filmmaker in Valley Forge, Pa.<\/p>\n<p>Davey speaks from experience. As a 65-year-old corporate executive, she recalls thinking, \u201cI don\u2019t want to retire. But do I really want to stay here? What else can I do?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>So she decided to make documentaries.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI knew I could figure out what I didn\u2019t know,\u201d she said. \u201cAs you get older, you know what you\u2019re able to do and what you\u2019re capable of. You can look back on times you failed and what you learned from that failure. So it becomes less scary to try new things. Fear and confidence tend to bump into one another.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>A few years ago, she released \u201cBeyond Sixty,\u201d a feature-length documentary about women over 60 showcasing their stories. She\u2019s currently working on another film.<\/p>\n<p>Like Marak, Davey says a key to gaining confidence is altering your daily routine and embracing the new.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cVolunteering just one day a month at a homeless shelter can be a huge confidence booster,\u201d Davey said.<\/p>\n<p>Overcome mental roadblocks that threaten to keep you stuck in place. For Davey, that means waving aside doubts such as,\u00a0<em>I\u2019m not trained to do that, I\u2019ve never done that before\u00a0<\/em>or<em>\u00a0My family will think I\u2019m crazy.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>True confidence comes from rising above such self-imposed worries. What begins as a minor, low-stakes action\u2014auditing a class, initiating small talk in the supermarket\u2014creates momentum that fuels more self-esteem.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThere\u2019s this messaging, especially with women, about how much of your insecurity is connected to what other people think or say,\u201d Davey said. \u201cI can\u2019t tell you how many people said to me [about filmmaking], \u2018You can\u2019t do that. You\u2019re too old. You\u2019re not trained.\u2019 But there\u2019s a curiosity that seems to emerge as you get older, a knowledge that you only have so many years left.\u201d<\/p><\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n<p><\/p>\n<div class=\"byline article__byline\">\n<p>    <span>By<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"author mobile-scrim hasMenu\" data-scrim='{\"type\":\"author\",\"header\":\"Morey Stettner\",\"subhead\":\"The Wall Street Journal\",\"list\":[{\"type\":\"link\",\"icon\":\"bio\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/www.marketwatch.com\/author\/morey-stettner\",\"text\":\"Biography\"},{\"type\":\"link\",\"icon\":\"email\",\"url\":\"http:\/\/www.marketwatch.com\/news\/mailto:contributors@marketwatch.com\",\"text\":\"contributors@marketwatch.com\"}]}' itemscope itemprop=\"author\" itemtype=\"http:\/\/schema.org\/Person\">\n<h4 itemprop=\"name\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Morey_Stettner\"><\/span>Morey Stettner<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<p><ufc-follow-author-widget product=\"marketwatch\" author-id=\"146_MW\" author-name=\"Morey Stettner\" signin-url=\"https:\/\/accounts.marketwatch.com\/login?target=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.marketwatch.com%2Fstory%2Fgetting-older-and-losing-confidence-heres-how-to-get-it-back-11669402636%3Frss%3D1%26siteid%3Drss\" panda-api=\"https:\/\/follow-api.marketwatch.com\"><\/ufc-follow-author-widget><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<blockquote><p><strong><span style=\"color: #ff6600;\">If you liked the article, do not forget to share it with your friends. 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